A GOLDEN MORNING

I had a dream last night,  and in that dream I saw a very beautiful morning. The type with the perfect colour and peace.  The type I used to appreciate waking up to everyday before life became too busy. I woke up from that dream and even found a more lovelier morning... I call it the golden morning because the sun shining through the morning was the finest gold I have never seen. I forgot my wants for the day and I appreciated the beauty of the morning. Today is a new day, the morning awakens a new dawn... The beauty of the morning he's the power to make our pains fade away,  but like the blind that cannot see the beauty of the day,  we couldn't see or appreciate a golden morning. We are therefore categorised as the blinds as we are so preoccupied with the carried over troubles of yesterday, pains of last week,  that we do not see the power of the golden morning and it's peaceful effect on us... The blinds wish they can see the beautiful day,  they CAn only feel it but not see it... But we have eyes, but just cannot see and appreciate a beautiful and golden morning. Leaving the hospital, gradual healing from my scars,  I realise that being well,  complete and healthy is a gift. For everyday you see the dawning of a new day with a sound mind and in good health,  never forget to appreciate the beauty of the morning because it is a special gift, painfully, not everyone enjoys it gets to partake in this gift because some slept,  and couldn't wake up.  I congratulate you if you are among the lucky ones that partake in this golden morning. Wishing you all my readers a beautiful day. Thank you.

FEELING BEAUTIFUL IN SCARS

They say beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. This is why I cannot understand how people still manage to call themselves ugly. If you love yourself(beholder) you will only see your beauty. You recall I suffered from a domestic gas explosion that left me with ugly scars. I really wish the scars could disappear. I want to just wake up one morning,  look in the mirror and find them gone but they say everything takes time. 

But whenever I hold the camera to my face for a selfie, I realize something new, a powerful emotion, the raw feeling of self love. It's me... I am madly in love with myself despite the ugly scars. I can't stop taking pictures of myself because I am  a beauty. I find myself looking pretty and the scars just don't matter anymore. The scars in defined areas of my body just makes me distinguishable and unique. I feel this sense of appreciation for myself despite the scars... I still see beauty and care that was put in creating me despite the scars. 

Dear readers,  I am saying the power of imagery cannot be understated.  What you see,  decides how you feel. If you see your beauty,  your awesomeness despite your ugly scars,  then you will walk shoulder high feeling beautiful and gorgeous. The scars will not decide how you relate with yourself and the rest of the world. I see beauty whenever I look at myself.... That makes me beautiful.... What do you see about yourself today?  How do you feel?  I encourage you to see your beauty despite that ugly situation in your life... Feel beautiful despite your scars. Thank you for reading. 

 

IF TODAY WAS YOUR LAST DAY

what if today was your last day? This is the question I asked myself today. A question that reminded me that everyday should be seen as a gift not a right. Everyday is special, today is not yesterday and tomorrow can never be today. Everyday comes with something beautiful, priceless and special. What if today was your last day?  Will you spend it thinking of failed relationships? Will you spend it blaming yourself for your failures or will you look at past pictures and relish old memories?Will you listen to as much music as you can,  eat the best food, withdraw your savings and visit the best places you dreamt of?  Will you donate your last dime to the needy? Will you heal broken hearts, mend fences and forgive those who hurt you. Of today  was your last day,  what will you do? How will you live if today was your last day? Everyday is a a special gift,  cherish it and give all in for each day as it comes,  living like today is your last and tomorrow might be too late. Do not spend time worrying and mourning those things that time has the power to erase. Live for each day like there is no tommorow. Today is what you see right now,  what you have right now, please make the best of it.... And you can only if you answer the question "what if today is my last day?"
Thanks for reading

SCARS HAPPEN WITH A SIGN

yes, scars don't  just happen. There is always a sign that accompanies that gruesome episode that is about to change your life forever.  The day of the gas explosion, I was sad and happy all through.  I did anything and everything I know trying to uplift  my mood.  For reasons I cannot tell I was worried.  I looked my best that very day. Soon,  I saw a little girl with burns on her neck. I stood for some minutes staring at her,  wondering about the magnitude of pain she must have been through. Unknowingly to me,  that I was going to suffer from same fate,  in few hours time. The fire happened and it was serious. The endless nightmares before the incident,  my sour mood that day before the accident  and the little girl with the burns on her neck was a sign.  A sign of painful and devastating times to come. Today I am saying if you feel moody,  sad and worried for no concrete reason,  do not take it for granted, just go on your knees and pray. Pray for God's protection in your next moments.  That unforeseen evil hour, pray for the salvation of your soul.  The signs comes but we do not understand,  but when we pray,  we will definitely survive the evil hour.  Thanks for reading.

MY SCARS AND THE WORLD

You recall that i sustained scars from a domestic gas explosion. Lots of people who visited me at the hospital never thought i could make. But i did...I survived and keep thriving. Dealing with my scars, i realised that not everyone who says sorry, actually pities me. Some of them know how desperate you are to get rid of that ugly scars hence come up with strategies in the name of treatment to cheat you off your money. Yea, i experienced lots of people suddenly having something to sell themselves. A man asked my father how i was doing after the incident, my father said i was recuperating. Then he said"she has a job but is dealing with fire accident,My sons do not have a job but there are not recovering from fire. They are very ok". That is the people that uses your circumstances to console themselves. Also some friends came to the hospital to see me, after seeing how monstrous i looked at the early stage of the incident, they said "you are not married and now you look like this, we that are ok and good looking finds it difficult to get married". They are simply telling me that i have no hope.
The last but not the least set of persons are those who wants you to blame it all on the scars. A friend of mine said "Ijeoma you would have being married if not for the accident". She wanted me to blame my singlehood on my scars. Entertaining such feeling can only make you see rejection where there is none. You suddenly see yourself wallowing in the depth of depressio  and frustration. You feel like a loser, unable to see anyrhing good about yourself. You fail, you blame it on the scars, people who ordinarily are meant to come and go, when they walk away, you see yourself blaming it on the scars.
What i am saying is, majority of world people loves to see you in pain. They ignore you when everything is fine and pretends to be your friend when everything is bad. Then they use your situation to console themselves, rubbing it on you, that their lives are so much better than yours. If only you will not concentrate on what the world says about your challenges, rather you find strength in your weaknesses by facing your worst fears and overcoming it. Thank you for reading.

WHEN THE THUNDER RUMBLES

The human race have become very desperate and cruel. People do all sorts of things to be feared and powerful. They make plans and strategise how to overtake and undertake. Ordinary human beings playing God by means of deciding the fate of their fellow humans. They believe no one can challenge them. They call themselves mighty, great and fearless. These are same humans that goes to bed, while asleep they do not know where they are. When they fall asleep they can't tell, When they wake up, they still don't know how they got up. They sleep like they are dead and do not know how they manage to wake up. These same humans brag and boast about their tomorrow. Making endless plans for even five years to come, not knowing if they will sleep and wake up the next day. They live like they own their lives.
When the thunder rumbles, the earth shakes to its depth, unconsciously, the human race stares upward, to the sky and the heavens and they are minded that there is someone mightier than the mighty, greater than the great. The almighty, the owner of the heavens and the earth...The owner of the entire human race....God almighty. When the thunder rumbles everyone is silent, still and realises that there is God. Everything is abandoned by the humans and there is fear and awe at the sound of the rumbling thunder. When thunder rumbles, the human race should never forget that there is God.

DON'T ALWAYS TRUST WHAT YOU SEE

there is more to what catches the eyes. I guess you have heard that before. Don't be so hard on yourself when you discovered you have been misled,  deceived OR fooled.  Can't blame you,  your are human after all and tends to draw conclusions and effect decisions from what you see.  What you see is not always the complete true.  The display of Love,  of anger,  of emotions,  of loyalty,  of support can just be an act for your eyes only. I am not saying your eyes deceive you everyday,  I am only saying you should leave a room of doubt in your heart,  no matter how the eyes try to convince you. I have seen people give me that smile like they could take a bullet for me,  later I see same people pull the trigger and release the bullet in me. Lip service is dangerous,  psycophancy my worst enemy. I let my heart will me to trust or doubt not base on what my eyes sees it the lip says but base on the peace I feel inwardly when I decide to do what I have to do.... There is more to every story that is played before your eyes.... As humans you cannot know what is left out or what is deliberately included just for your eyes.... After all we are not omniscience, omnipresent, only God Almighty has the title. The eyes only communicate what it sees but does not tell your heart what to believe. Today I am saying. DON'T ALWAYS TRUST WHAT YOU SEE!!!!

PSYCHOLOGY OF POSITIVE THINKING

*PSYCHOLOGY OF POSITIVE THINKING:  TIPS FOR FULFILLED LIFE*

*1. Don't complicate life. We won't be here forever. Once this day is over, it's gone forever. Your time is too valuable to waste on nonsense.*

*2. No matter what knocks you down in life, get up and keep going. NEVER GIVE UP. Great blessings come as a result of great perseverance.*

*3. Talking about our problems is our greatest addiction. Break the habit. Talk about your joys.*

*4. Good things come to those who believe, better things come to those who are patient, and the best things come to those who don't give up.*

*5. Do not pray for an easy life; pray for the strength to endure a difficult one.*

*6. Disappointments were not meant to destroy you. They were meant to strengthen you and give you fortitude to accomplish your God-given destiny.*

*7. We tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of getting something we don't have, but by appreciating what we do have.*

*8. Your child will follow your example, not your advice.*

*9. One day, you'll be just a memory for some people. Do your best to be a good one.*

*10. Associate yourself with people of good quality. For it is better to be alone than in bad company.*

*11.  Don't fear change. You may lose something good, but you may also gain something great.*

*12.  When you love what you have, you have everything you need.*

*13. The greatest act of faith some days is to simply get up and face another day.*

*14. Never let the things you want make you forget the things you have - GRATITUDE.*

*15. Commitment means staying loyal to what you said you were going to do, long after the mood you said it has left you.*

*16. When you choose to forgive those who have hurt you, you take away their power.*

*17. Patience is not the ability to wait, but how you act while you are waiting.*

*18. Isn't it ironic:*
*- We ignore those who adore us, but adore the ones that ignore us*
*- We love those who hurt us, but hurt the ones that love us.*

*19. Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together. Every story has an end, but in life every end is just a new beginning.*

*20. You were born to win. Although to be a winner, you must plan to win, prepare to win, and expect to win.*

*21. Every day is a NEW beginning, take a deep breath and START AGAIN.*

*22. Know that you are loved. You are fearfully and wonderfully made. You are beautiful. You have purpose. You are a masterpiece.*

*23. Don't compare your progress with that of others. We all need our own time to travel our own distance.*

*24. Surround yourself only with people who are going to lift you higher.*

*25. Bad things happen everyday to everyone. The difference is in how people deal with it.*

*26. When you make a commitment, you build hope. When you keep it, you build trust.*

*27. Two things define you: Your PATIENCE when you have NOTHING, and your ATTITUDE when you have EVERYTHING.*

*28. Being honest may not get you a lot of FRIENDS but it will always get you the RIGHT ONES.*

*29. Working on yourself is the hardest part of life. Keep growing up, no matter where you are.*

*30. Be selective in your battles. Sometimes peace is better than being right.*

*31. Keep people in your life who truly love you, motivate you and make you happy. If you know people who do none of these things, let them go.*

*32. Be happy not because everything is good, but because you can see the good side of everything.*

 *33. OPTIMISM*
*NO ➔ Shortcuts*
*NO ➔ Quick fixes*
*NO ➔ Blaming others*
*NO ➔ I'll do tomorrows*
*NO ➔ EXCUSES!!*

*34. Surround yourself with positive people who will support you when it rains, not just when it shines.*

*35. Being defeated is often a temporary condition; giving up is what makes it permanent.*

Enjoy God's grace on this journey we call LIFE.

FAKE FRIENDS IN SCAR TIMES

watch this video and get inspired. At scar times, you will know who you real friends are.

PLAYING THE NICE GUY

We are all living and we have chosen to play certain roles. Some of us play the bad guys, some the nice guys and others the pitable guys. We mostly tend to be excessive in the roles...Not a little of the bad guy where necessary or a little of the nice guy where its called for. We blindly and vigorously stick to the roles we have chosen like our destiny depends on the roles we play.

Are you getting what i am trying to say? i am saying, you playing the nice guy don't over do it and look stupid at the end of the day. And if you are playing the bad guy, donte humane sometime. You playing the pitable role, quit it because everyone has his own problems...And they don't go around wearing placards stating their problems. Rather some are packaging, pretending to be happy, pretending to be loved and dealing softly.
We are all playing a role...Roles we have chosen by and for ourselves. Remember what they say, moderation in all things. A word is enough for the wise. Bye for now and thanks for reading.

A NOLLYWOOD VETERAN ACTOR BIDS HIS MOTHER FAREWELL

ERNEST Obi, a nollywood veteran Actor/ Director and producer bids his lovely mother farewell as she sojourns to the afterlife. Here is a brief biography telling the story of a fulfilled and life of great impact.
Please Read This!!!
BIOGRAPHY AND FUNERAL ORATION OF LATE PRINCESS MRS BABY UZOAMAKA EUGENIA EGWUH (NEE ORIZU )

Late Princess Mrs Baby Uzoamaka Eugenia Egwuh was born on the 25th of December 1927 to the family of late King Josiah Nnaji Orizu in Otolo Nnewi of Anambra State.
She had a modest upbringing having spent all her childhood under the parent's Christian tutelage. This fact was responsible for the wonderful sense of value that distinguished 'BABY' throughout her life.

EDUCATIONAL BACKGROUND.
Late Princess Mrs Baby Uzoamaka Eugenia Egwuh(Nee Orizu ) was academically and mentally equipped. Hence her academic curriculum started with her elementary school in:
(1). First Salvation Army School Otolo Nnewi
(2). St. Patrick's Africa Episcopal School Otolo Nnewi
(3). Central School Nkwo - Nnewi
(4). College Girls School Onitsha
(5). Teacher's Training College Onitsha,
(6). And finally School of Science in Onitsha, where she was later employed as a classroom teacher to teach 'DOMESTIC SCIENCE'.

Later, sweet mom was traditionally married to Chief Leonard Dara Onyia Egwuh of 'Obi Umuogbenyeanu' village Ebe-Ukpor Nnewi in December 1951, thereafter wedded at Bishop Toughbwell Anglican Memorial Communion Church Lagos Island in 1952. After her marriage, she abandoned teaching according to her beloved husband's wish for distributorship in soft drinks from Nigerian breweries, John Holt clothing, Leventis stores, A. J Seward cosmetics, lever brothers detergent amongst others.
And later on joined her beloved husband in the transport business as the managing directress of Chief A&C Egwuh transport Nigeria Ltd. Their blissful marriage was blessed with 8 children and survived by 7 today.
As a matter of fact, the religious life of late Princess Mrs Baby Uzoamaka Eugenia Egwuh cannot be over-emphasized since she opted for the Anglican faith; Surely the fear of God is the beginning of wisdom, she remained a devout Christian and has maintained fellowship till death. At St. John's Anglican Church Ukpor and St. Saviour's Anglican Church Lagos, where she worshipped, she did not fail to attend services.

SOCIAL LIFE.
Late Princess Mrs Baby Uzoamaka Eugenia Egwuh (Ezinne ) was a woman of the people, peace and integrity. She took honour and joy everywhere she went. She enjoyed making peace amongst people. She trained and helped so many lives, by giving alms to the less privileged ones. She loved playing with children and children loved her too, in fact she was a great philanthropist in all ramifications. With this, she was called (Nwachinemelu, Ochiri - ozua, Omere - Umuogbenye, etc).

Even though the standard of man is not of God, mama demonstrated her life to God both in truth and spirit. Her contributions in the house of God (Church ) were evident; she was a member of the Anglican Women Organization, an active member of the Guild and mother, etc. Because of her honesty and devotion, mama was duly crowned "EZINNEDIORANMA " in St. John's Anglican church Ukpor. The history of mama Princess Baby Uzoamaka Eugenia Egwuh cannot be exhaustively written without mentioning her humanitarian activities, which are worthy of emulation.
Sweet mom(NWACHINEMELU ) we respect your incurable sweetness and accuracy in situation analysis, your startling accomplishments to human relation must always be remembered. Mama was a rallying point for the members of the family and a "a tree that housed many birds ". She was a shepherd of unity and epitome of peace characterized by kindness.

RELATIONSHIPS WITH PARENTS, BROTHERS, SISTERS AND OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS.

Her parents loved and adored her so much hence the name 'BABY' signified that she was an egg that would not like to be broken by anybody. It also symbolized the great true love they had for her in sincerity and earnest.
Sweet mom learned the virtues of hard work, honesty, self discipline and the fear of God from her parents who were zealous Anglican Christians.
More so, her relationship with brothers, sisters, aunties, uncles and other family members was very cordial. Late Princess Baby was highly recognized and loved in the family fold because of her usual gentleness, humility, meekness, kindness, caring, generosity, peacefulness, knowledge, intelligence, wisdom, and jovial in nature with members of her father's household and others.
Sweet angelic mom(NWACHINEMELU ) we your children, grand children, great grandchildren, relations, and well-wishers will miss your ever smiling face, prayers, words of encouragement and advice a lot. We are sufficiently convinced that you have lived an upright life in the eyes of God and that is why we should take heart.
May your humble soul rest in the bosom of the Lord, Amen!!!
Adieu Baby, Adieu Uzoamaka, Adieu Eugenia, Adieu Ezinne di nma, Adieu Nwachinemelu, Adieu onye udo na nwanyi obioma, Adieu Obi-diya!!!

EVERYDAY TO DAY VIDEO STORY TELLING

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UNMASKED

Hi readers, I remember posting an article with the title many faces of the mask. O said the face behind the mask is scary and dangerous, not until it is unmasked, will you know what lies hidden. Yea, have you ever felt like you know someone, like you could vouche for them, but in the long run. They turn out to be some body, totally unrecognizable. Yea, I have found myself countless times in that position. I almost vowed with my life that they are who they showed to me...to think I would have died for trusting the mask they cover. You do not know people, who they are and what they are capable of doing. Humans, are those who say something different with their lips and their hearts speaks something so entirely different. A nice smile, tears in the eyes, compassionate hug and a heart felt kiss might just be a mask worn for you.

Not until it is unmasked would you see the real emotion. This is the reason why a mouth that says "I love you", in few minutes time of ugliness says " I hate you". Then you see a smiling face extending a hug towards you and just

when you are not looking, the smiling face becomes monstrous and a knife is plunged through your heart. Do not trust the smiling face, do not trust the compassionate hugs....many people are wearing a mask. They wear a mask to put food on their table, they wear a mask to keep money coming into their bank accounts, they must have the mask on, to keep you by their side. With mask on, you are deceived, manipulated and trapped. Not until they are fully unmasked, would you know the person you think is the solution is actually the problem. Thanks for reading and trust no one because we are all wearing a mask....some say, we need a mask on to stay alive...to survive.....

BEING BURNED

Being burned is not a nice feeling. Its painful and a very ugly experience. I know some of you were not burned by the actual fire that burned me. Some of you were burned emotionally, others professionally. Being burned makes angry, vengeful and you see yourself blaming the world for your woes and misfortune. You conceive and set out on a mission to make the world test and pay for your pains. Being burned leaves scars...scars that take a long time to fade or may never fade. You are constantly reminded by that scar what it means to be burned.  You feel life is not worth living when you are burned. Life suddenly makes no sense, there is no white, all you see is black and blood. You feel there is no more laughter, all you see is frowns and the gazes of agony. Unknowingly, when you are burned, a new chapter is open to you, a new strength is discovered, a new drive is forced out of you.

 Being burned only means the end of one chapter of your life, and a beginning of a new one. Something good can still come out from being burned because it is the mark of a new phase of your life.
I have been burned, but I keep overcoming and rising above it....please to all who are burned rise above it and defeat your pains. Thanks for reading

HUSBAND SCARCITY

HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! Giving credit to MARYAM Habu Shinga. This article is worth a read

HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!
This may not be the best time for me to write on this because of misinterpretations, but I can no longer resist the push. "Husband Scarcity" has become one of the challenges faced by many young girls today. If you go to prayer houses, majority of the intentions are prayer for a life partner. And this calls for concern. Casting our minds back to the time of our mothers and grandmothers, was there really much of a "Husband Scarcity" problem? Or, maybe there were more men than women then, or there was an adequate corresponding numbers of both genders. I don't think so. Maybe then, the women had values and were prepared to build a home and not park into a built home. Then, once a young man comes of age and can at least feed himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a wife and the woman really appreciates him and helps him to build a future. What am I really trying to say? We created what we now see as "Husband Scarcity" for ourselves. Today, the reverse is the case. Ask an average girl to define her dream husband; you get things like "he has to be tall, handsome, fair, and rich, own a house at least, and be presentable" and then she adds "God fearing" in order not to sound so worldly. Then, check the number of girls around you and the number of men that meet that standard, and you will see the problem. You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer in my father's house and then go and start suffering with a man." What a wonderful dream! What if from the beginning, you have everything you want and there is no suffering, and later in the marriage, the table turns around, then comes suffering? Will you run away? No one prays for suffering, but it is good to start small and end big, than start big and end small. The problem is that the description majority of girls give of their ideal man is virtually the same. When 50 girls want the same kind of man and the man that fits what they want is just 1 man, and the man can only pick one. Then, what becomes of 49 others? They simply start lamenting of

"Husband Scarcity". Another irony of our time is that it is hard, due to the face of our economy to find a man who is of marriage age who possesses all those things these ladies want, legally (except those involved in Internet fraud); even the number of those in Internet fraud is not enough to match all those searching for already made husbands. If you look around, majority of the ladies of substance, of good value and virtue, who are ready to build a home with a man who has prospects, are married and not complaining of husband scarcity. The easiest way to find a husband now, is to change your view of who a husband is. A husband is that man God made and then saw that it may be hard for him to really actualize his purpose for making him, without a help mate and then made the woman and gave to him, and he felt complete and fulfilled MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. It is a mission of building the family of God here on earth. For those who see marriage as a way out of poverty, it is a way into bondage. Women are HOME BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY. Where he is today, may only be a route to where God has destined him to be tomorrow. Another truth is that YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS DESTINATION. Join in alleviating "husband scarcity". PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES. I am not saying that you should pick anyone that comes your way and talks of marriage, not all men are husband materials. What I am saying is that you should stop setting your standard on material acquisitions or physical appearances. Look beyond the physical. WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF. And that which he is made of is, most times, not seen with the physical eyes, only its effects can be seen. Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever is seen is temporal and that which is not seen is permanent.

This post is worth sharing, let it go as far as it can.

SLAP YOURSELF TO REALITY

SLAP YOUR SELF!
*Be* *Contented*
So, Tonto Dikeh invested all that money, time and energy to make us believe she had the best husband and life?
The luxury cars, jewelries, vacation, birthday parties and clothes.
Only to tell us they were all lies? That he never bought her anything, that she was just putting up a show to upgrade him?

I can't stop imagining how many people felt less of themselves watching the euphoria. How many marriages and relationships were wrecked because, some of us got mad that our partners were not doing enough. If you were one of them, take a minute and SLAP YOUR SELF!

Some girl you know, just had a flamboyant wedding and while she is feeling miserable that it was all her money, with little or no support from her husband, you're also feeling miserable because your wedding was nothing compared to hers, despite your husband's total support? SLAP YOUR SELF!

Someone is living in a bigger house than yours and while they can't sleep at night because EFCC or the bank might just show up, park them out and grab their collateral, you too can't sleep at night because you feel they are better off than you? SLAP YOUR SELF!

Your friends have their kids in the most expensive schools and while they are dying of hypertensive heart disease over school fees, you're having same health challenge because you can't take your mind off the fact that, you can't afford that school for your kids? SLAP YOUR SELF!

Your friends sleep around, loan and steal money from their offices, to fund the annual vacation and while they are restless the entire vacation, because a huge debt or query awaits them, you're also restless when you see their vacation pics on social media? SLAP YOUR SELF!

All your friends are married or in a relationship and while they have lost their self value because they settled for less than they deserved, you've lost same too because, you feel they're more deserving? SLAP YOUR SELF!

The slay queen or king on your timeline won't stop posting pictures of their designers clothes, hair, shoes, bags and jewelries and while they have slept with half the men and women in town, running and hiding from debtors, you're running and hiding too because, you feel you're not presentable? SLAP YOUR SELF!

Things do not always appear the way they are. Never loose a wink of sleep on what you see on social media.
You'll never know the length people go to paint a happy and successful picture.
Quit allowing yourself suffer their predicament by buying into the lies. And even if they were true, focus on your life. Have a dream and work towards it. Everything you need will come to you in time.
Everyone's timing is not the same. Slow and steady wins the race. If you rush in, you'll be rushed out!

N/B; Most of the very rich, happy and successful people like, Bill Gates, Mark Zuck, Oprah Winfrey, Dangote don't flaunt it on social media because they know who they are, and don't seek your validation.

So tell me, how many times did you SLAP YOUR SELF?
#becontented

KIDNAPPING- #BEWISE

Kidnapping cases in Nigeria has now reached an alarming  rate and the security agencies seems to be helpless. The recent case involved the former Director, DSS, Mike Ejiofor who was kidnapped along Okene –Obajana junction in Kogi State together with his driver,  ransom was paid after spending four days in their camp without food. According to him ,these kidnappers are Fulani gunmen with sophisticated weapons. They target mainly jeeps ,because according to  him ,they believe that once you are driving a jeep, you must be a wealthy person.
He also stated  that the kidnappers charge you base on the information they have on you through your ipad or cell phone.
In the light of this trend, staff are advised to:
•Keep a low profile and avoid ostentatious lifestyle
•Always delete your financial transactions in your ipad or handsets
•While travelling, take only less valuables  items with you.
•Avoid late travelling, plan your trip on time.
•Avoid sitting at the back of a vehicle because ,it gives impression that you are the owner of the vehicle.
•Do not accept nor offer lift to strangers.
•While travelling ,avoid expensive clothing and jewelries, dress moderately.
•information about financial transactions and travels should be handled with the highest level of confidentiality.
•Fly if you can to avoid road travelling .
•While walking or driving through hot-spots, be extra-vigilant.

HOW TO COPE AFTER BEING KIDNAPPED
•Remain calm
•Don’t try to escape
•Remember to cooperate and empathize with your captors.
•Your abductors may ask for contact person, do not mention your company’s name  unless detected, mention your Mother or close friend’s name for negotiation to your release.
•Follow their instructions to avoid being bullied or killed.
•Let your negotiator be friendly with your abductors to avoid being beaten or killed.
•Do not attempt to look at your abductors face.
The most high God shall always be our security, day & night, amen!
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A SEX DRIVEN GENERATION

Dear readers, I didn't want to write about this, but it is greatly affecting me that i have to speak up. I joined a social site where I get to meet lots of guys. When I say lots of you them, I mean different shades and different size. One peculiar thing I noticed about them is that they are all sex driven. They say hi to you because they have sex in mind...don't ask me how they can be sex driven when they have not seen me because, sex is the only reason they intend to see me or those of them who knows they just need you to have fun via the internet by either cam sex or sex chat. What I am asking is where did the real thing go? The days where people just talk and feel like it was the best moment of their life. Now you hear a guy say I love you only when he is in the mood for sex. In those days they tell me go to the church to look for a guy that will be OK to wait for sex after marriage, but the church boy is worst. He uses the bible to disguise like a decent guy but tells you he will not risk the problem of incompatibility in marriage... He must test before marriage. Where did the fear of God for the scripture marriage is bed undefiled? The ingredients of trust, love, hadwork that make up a good relationship is kicked to the curb and sex takes the centre stage. Even a woman's submissiveness is judged from the viewpoint of sex. Today he is all sweet and romantic with you, when he hears he is not going to be getting it from you, he becomes from sweet to snubbish and bitter. In a sex driven generation like ours, people cannot tell the difference between being in love or being in lust. In a time like this, I am congratulating those who found something real, something that is solid and is not standing on the base of sex alone. Sex is good in a relationship but it is only 10percent good. Trust, hardwork, love make up the other 90 percent in a relationship. What our sex driven generation does not know is that it takes more than sex for a relationship to be neaningful and solid. I wish I was back to the days of my parents when love is pure, when virginity is not seen as stupidity or a lacknof opportunity rather, a thing of pride and respect. In this sex driven generation that I have found myself, I can only hope that there is someone out there who is not only sexually driven that can still listen and accept the voice of  reason. Thanks for reading.

THE FIRE BURNS ALL

Dear readers,  today I write you because I have come to the realisation that everyone goes through pains. What touches you is different from what touches another. Just because you are the only one telling your story,  does not mean they do not have a story to tell. Sometimes they smile and silently deal with their problems. The fire burns all... In my case,  the literally burned me,  but in other cases,  the fire did not literally burn them but the pains they go through and try to heal from,  the scars sustained is synonymous with that caused by the actual fire burn. I met a friend from some years back,  and while I show her my scars,  talked about the pains I have been through and how much I have changed.  She looked at me and smiled.

While I was waiting for the usual consolation, she started telling me how she lost her first child during delivery... It was a still birth. It was painful for her,  after carrying the pregnancy for nine good months,  bonding with her baby when it was in the womb, but the baby did not go home with her... I forgot about my scars for that moment,  and began to console her. At that moment I realised that she too has been burn by a different kind of fire and is healing from the scars caused by that loss. When you see people with flawless skin,  impeccable taste, attractive smiles, you feel like they are better off,  not until you go very close to them,  will you have a proper conversation, then you will hear about their pains, how they rose from it,  then you will realise the fire burns all. I don't know the fire that has burned you,  I can't tell the degree of the burns and the appearance of the scar it left on you,  what I can tell you is stop feeling sorry for yourself and stop wishing you had another person's life. Just because their problems or scars isn't visible does not mean they are without problems. Concentrate on rising from your pains, because wishing to be the next man standing next to you might be worst than being you because the fire burns all..... Thanks for reading.

FOR LOVE OR HELP

HI readers,  it's a beautiful morning and I am more than inspired to share another experience with you as I rise above my scars. Today I am asking those have promised to be by my side if they are in for love OR for help. Not long ago, I met this guy who claims "he likes me the way I am." I went as far as revealing my ugly scars to him and he said,  "if I was married to you before the fire incident,  will I abandoned you?"  that word gave me hope and I began to see the possibility of acceptance. He calls,  texts and really gave me the impression that he was for real. But his questions were always one sided.  He always ask about my job and salary,  more than he ever asked about my treatment. I became suspicious and alert.  Then in the name of being open and honest with me because we are soon going to be one in his exact words, he began to tell me about his financial problems, how broke he is and requesting help from me. I felt sad... I needed help than he could ever need,  but he only saw his needs. He demanded for money,  and I continuously Denied me... I could no longer hope things will change because things became worst by the day. Then I realized he was with me for help and not for love. He thought no one will accept me, so I have to be grateful he came along and do anything, give him anything to make him stay by my side. Iwhat he never knows is,  I don't feel so hopeless... I don't care if anyone accepts me,  all I care about is accepting myself and being accepted by God. Dear readers I became wary and overly sensitive of men who demand help from me after seeing my situation. It made me question if they are coming to me for love OR for help? Thanks for reading.

DREAMS THAT NEVER CAME THROUGH.

Hi readers, today i am going to be sharing with you some of my experiences that turned out to be the dreams that never came through. i know some people think dreaming is  a sign of laziness, others see  it as a crime and some others see it as a disease and an act of fooling oneself chilling in the fantasy world, instead of stepping out to reality. but who cares what people thinks about dreams....if you are not dreaming, i don't know what to say to you. i dream a lot....i am not only referring to the things you do not have control of, when you go to bed, i am talking about the moments i allow my imagination to take me to another realm and fully surrender myself to my fantasies. dreams are free, we do not pay for them....back to what i am saying, i had this experience that only turned out to be one of those dreams that did not come through. i met this guy, he was good looking, smart, intelligent and a perfect gentleman.

He was everything any  woman can wish for in her widest imagination. he made me happy for the short time we spent. i find myself looking up to each new day with the greatest and most beautiful expectations. he had plans...great plans for me, he seemed too good to be true...but i was happy, i enjoyed every moment of the sweet feeling while it lasted not minding when the feeling finally passes. every now and then i never stopped to thank him for giving me this great opportunity to dream...he kept on assuring me, that it is not a dream...but you know what they say, reality is stronger than the illusion. like how you wake up from that  dream that you were having the best meal of your life and face your reality of hunger and emptiness, i also woke up to reality. this guy right now feels like he only existed in my fantasy world. even when i play and replay the phone conversations to remind myself that he was real, that i did not imagine it....its gone too soon....he gone and faded like the memory of the dream with the sumptuous meal. he was a dream that never came through....but still hoping...didn't they say when there is life, there is hope? still hoping my lovely readers.....i can say he is a dream that has not come through....just keep the hope alive....that dream can come through....thanks for reading 

MY SCAR STORY : ACCEPTING ME

It is undeniable that we know what it is to be scarred.  Some of us are presently living with scars.  Some scars are visible,  others invisible while we heal from these scars we all wish we can be accepted by people we love.  We want to be cherished and treasured.

Sometimes when these feelings we give are not reciprocated, we blame the rejection on the scars.... 

It's funny though but sometimes I remember the days I lived without scars, I somehow forgot that I was rejected by some people. Despite my perfections, not everyone accepted or preferred me. Then I see myself blaming it on the unseen reason that I am not just gorgeous enough,  or smart enough or good enough. But right now it is so much easy to blame our rejections on the scars... If not for the scars,  I would have probably been the most beautiful,  the most accepted,  the most preferred... That is what we tell ourselves. Truth is since I live with and rise above my scars, I have come to realize that for me to expect people to appreciate and accept me...

The appreciation and acceptance has to start with me... How can I expect someone else to appreciate me,  to admire me,  to accept me when I can't even accept myself? I want someone to hold my hands,  look into my eyes and tell me how gorgeous I am despite my scars yet I can't stand myself,  I can't even look myself in the mirror. What I am saying dear readers is, acceptance starts with you... Most people do not see your problems,  rather they see how you handle and relate with your problems. I am scared and run away from people who exude negative energy, so how can my negative view and disposition towards my scars attract a positive person. How do you expect someone to accept you,  when you can't accept who you are.... I have accepted who I am... And all I see when I look at the mirror is what a survivor I am. . . What I see is how gorgeous I am despite my scars... How lucky anyone who will have me will be despite my scars... What do you see about yourself.... Have you accepted yourself despite the ugly scars? Thanks for reading.

WORDS FROM A FATHER TO HIS SON ON MARRIAGE

COURTESY -NETDOCTOR
When I consider what type of advice is the best to give, I have to say marriage advice. Why? Because your spouse is who you spend your entire life with. They are the ones who endure every hardship, failure and struggle with you. They are by your side for success, growth and blessings. You lean on each other, rely on each other and make a life together.
A marriage is a partnership and if you nurture it, it can be the most powerful thing in your life. It can give you comfort and hope and stability when the rest of the world can not.
WORDS FROM A FATHER TO A SON ABOUT MARRIAGE.
1.My son, if you keep spending on a woman and she never asked you if you’re saving or investing, and she keeps enjoying the attention, don’t marry her.
2.My son, a woman could be a good wife to you, some could be a good mother to your children but if you’ve found a woman like a mother to you, your children and your family, please don’t let her go.
3.My son, don’t confine the position of your wife to the kitchen, where did you get that from? Even in our days, we had farm-lands where they worked every morning… that was our office.
4.My son, if I tell you that you’re the head of the house, don’t look at your pocket; look if you will see a smile on your wife’s face.
5.My son, if you want to have a long life, let your wife be in-charge of your salary, it will be difficult for her to spend it when she’s aware of the home needs and bills to pay but if it’s in your care, she will keep you asking even when all has been spent.
6.My son, don’t ever beat your woman, the pain in her body is nothing to be compared to the wound on her heart and that means you may be in trouble living with a wounded woman.
7.My son, now that you’re married, if you live a
bachelor kind of life with your wife, you will soon be single again.
8.My son, in our days, we had many wives and many children because of our large farm-lands and many harvests, there are hardly any land for farming anymore, so embrace your woman closely.
9.My son, under the big tree that I did meet your mother could be your eateries and restaurants of nowadays, but remember, the closet thing we did there was to embrace each other.
10.My son, don’t be carried away when you start making more money, instead of spending on those tiny legs that never knew how hard you worked to get it, spend it on that woman that stood by you all along.
11.My son, when I threw little stones or whistled at the window of your mother father’s house, to call her out, it was not for sex, it was because I missed her so much.
12.My son, remember, when you say your wife has changed, there could be something you’ve stopped doing too.
13.My son, your mother, she rode the bicycle with me before I bought that tortoise car outside there, any woman that won’t endure with you in your little beginning should not enjoy your riches.
14.My son, don’t compare your wife to any woman, there are ways she’s enduring you too and has she ever compared you to any man?

15.My son, there is this thing you people call
feminism, well, if a woman claim to have equal right with you in the house, divide all the bills into two equal parts, take one part and ask her to start paying the other part.
16.My son, I met your mother a virgin and I took more yams to her father, if you don’t meet your wife a virgin, don’t blame her, what I didn’t tell you is that our women had prestige.
17.My son, I didn’t send your sisters to school because I was foolish like many to think a female child won’t extend my family name, please don’t make that mistake, the kind of female achievers I see nowadays has made the male-gender an ordinary tag.
18.My son, your mother have once locked up the cloth I was wearing and almost tore it because she was angry, I did not raise my hand to beat her because of a day like this, so that I can be proud to tell you that I never for once beat your mother.
19.My son, in our days, our women had more of natural beauty, though I wouldn’t lie to you, some had minor painting of their appellation mostly on their arms, the ones you people now call tattoo, but don’t forget that they didn’t
expose any part of their body like your women of nowadays.
20.My son, your mother and I are not interested in what happens in your marriage, try to handle issues without always coming to us.
21.My son, remember I bought your mother’s first sewing machine for her, help your wife achieve her dreams just as you’re
22.My son, don’t stop taking care of me and your mother, it’s a secret of growing old and having children to take care of you too.
23.My son, pray with your family, there is a tomorrow you don’t know, talk to God that knows everything, everyday.
What are your thoughts?

MOTIVATIONAL STORY

Very  motivational.

Long  time  ago there  lived  a  great king  and  two beggars  who always  stood  at the  gate  of  his  palace  everyday.

As  the  king  rode by  everyday,  the 1st beggar would say 'blessed  is  he whom  the  king helps' while  the 2nd beggar would say 'blessed is he whom God helps'.

The  king  always felt  pleased  to hear  the  praise  of the 1st  beggar.

One  evening  the king  decided  to reward  the  1st beggar  for  all  the praise;  he  ordered his  baker  to  bake a  cake  and  wrapped gold inside  the  cake.

The  next day  as  he  rode  by, he gave  the  cake  to the  1st beggar  as he  hailed  him  as usual.

The 1st beggar  who  was  in  dire need  of  cash  sold  the  cake  to  the 2nd beggar at  a cheap  price.

When the 2nd beggar cut open the cake he saw the gold, sold them and became a wealthy man.

He did not return back to the kings gate the next day.

As  the  king  rode out  of  his  palace the  next day,  he saw  the  1st beggar  still  begging for money  and stopped  to  ask him  if  he  ate  the cake  he  gave  him.

The  1st beggar replied  and  said  no  sir,  I  sold  it  to my  friend  who  was  here  with  me yesterday;  I  have not  seen  him today.

The  king shook his head highly disappointed and confessed silently to himself that

" Indeed Blessed is he Who God helps"

Our  God  is  the  all knowing  God, HE has  not  forgotten you. God  always does His work just  in  time.

Be  blessed  and  Trust  God  even  when  you  don't understand  His WILL. By the grace of God, you will enjoy the favour of God this year and your blessings shall be in abundance, so shall it be. Amen