LIVING FOR TODAY

Dear diary,  today I am not going to be worried about what will be and what is supposed to be.  Come to think of it,  who can predict the future?  Who knows what tomorrow holds?  I don't know.  What I know is I need to be happy and my happiness will be my biggest pursuit. I will try to live comfortably and happily,  embracing each day warm heatedly as it comes. I am tired of worrying about what tomorrow brings. I just want to be happy and comfortable and that is what I am going to be. The best things happen to them who are contented and grateful for life. The best things comes to those who rely on grace and do not struggle too much to get them. This is how I feel today, not calculating too much or strategic about how to get all I want. Just learning to be grateful for who I am today and loving me,  myself,  I and Jesus. Good morning dear diary.

THE PREDATOR BECOMES THE PREY

YES, a picture is suddenly formed in my mind. You want to know what the picture looks like?  I will tell you. It's the picture of a lion(predator) chasing after a antelop(prey) then suddenly, the antelope stopped running, turned to face it predator,  with hairs rising violently,  nose flaring,it charges towards the lion. The lion who cannot and has never seen the antelope so bold,  daring and dangerous was not ready to gamble or call the antelope bluff. Not waiting long enough to find out the antelop's source of strength, the lion runs for life with the antelop chasing after it.... The predator becomes the prey.  I know you are wondering what's on my mind. I have seen people who set off on a task to bring you down. They believe they know everything about you. They think they understand your strength and weakness. They feel they can tell how far you can go, and your limits. They call themselves your fate deciders... They think they have you in the palm of their hands. They get to decide when to pull off the life plug on you, and when to make you live.
What they don't know is you don't even know what you can do or cannot do.... You don't even understand how far you can go and your limits. Where they consider it over for you, there it starts with you. The table suddenly turns around. They that hunts you becomes hunted.  Somehow you found strength in your inner man and goes for them without limit. They begin to call you names like evil because they cannot understand the source of your strength and rising. Never consider yourself weak... How far you can and willing to go is not yours to Decide... Just go for it... You will be amazed how far you have gone and won.
..always find strength in your inner man and cause your predators to become your preys. Thanks for reading....

PERFECT LIVES IN THE GRAVE.

AS painful as it sounds, it's the truth.  Some of us are probably loathing ourselves. We wish we can be better and so much more than we are now. We take details of the lives of those around us. We wish we could have what they have and live their kind of lives. We are constantly stuck in comparison and hate the position we find ourselves. We tell ourselves how unfair life is to us... I am very guilty of this. I spend time enving my mates that are married and are mothers now. I wish I could have the family they have. I envy those who don't have to constantly wear long sleeves clothes even when the weather is hot.  I wish my scars does not limit me,  so I can wear hand less  cloths and feel the cool breeze caress my skin. Having all these things is not impossible. Attaining these positions in life is not impossible but just a matter of time and chance. Everyone has his own time. Today I have a comfortable job but wants to start a family,  but there are others who have a family but need a comfortable job to provide for them. What you envy about   someone, is different from what another person envy in you. You will learn to get out of your feelings of inadequacy when you remember that there are so many perfect lives IN grave. Yes, they got everything going for them, everything you could ever live for, good looks, good job, good family, nice house and a very attractive bank account. But for some reason bigger than you and I comprehension, they are no more. In the grave,  buried, six feet deep,  laid to rest forever. Their dreams, aspirations and plans all gone. Today we may not be described as perfect but we have life. With life, giving time and chance,  we can be anyone we wish to be and have everything we ever wanted. You and I,  alive though imperfect is better off than the perfect bodies in the grave. Never forget this when the feeling of self pity and loathing tries to weigh you down. I hope you are inspired? Thanks for reading.

ARE YOU WEAK OR POWERFUL?

they say the weak bow before the powerful.... The weak bow before the strong.  Then I ask who are weak and who are the powerful? There is no definite answer to that question. You get to decide if you are weak or strong.  You don't just say it... You act it and prove it.... I watch people act all powerful, behave like they are your fate deciders.... I laugh when they act like they have totally crush me.... They tell me to quit... That it's game over.... I tell them it is over when I say it is over,  as long as I am still ready to fight back and determined to win.... It can never be over.... When you bow before someone without giving it all you can,  then you have proven yourself as weak... Nobody prays to be faced with worst... We can not even explain what the worst looks like until we are faced with it... You cannot afford to be described as the weak... When you bow to your pains, your oppressors and tormentors without putting up a fight and just accept defeat calling it your fate,  you have decided to be weak... You can chose to be who you are. The weak or the powerful. I hope you act powerful... Thanks for reading. Hope you are inspired.

MANY FACES OF THE MASK

dear readers, these past few days has been quite revealing to me. Yes, I had the opportunity to see man in his real nature. I get to realise that not everyone who smiles with you is genuine with you and not everyone who tells you sorry,  feels your pain and not everyone who says congrats to you is happy for you. We live in the world where the faces You See is covered with mask. Yes, it feels like almost everyone we encounter is wearing a mask. Not until you patiently uncover the mask,  then you will see what lies beneath the mask. The question is how can a mask securely placed in the face be uncovered? One way is to have a fight with your the man next to you and you will see the true colours coming out. You get to hear their secret and hidden opinions about you. Words,  very harsh and bitter words rained at you. Then you get to feel the real anger,  hatred,  disgust,  animosity and aggression securely hidden beneath the mask. I usually tell people,  do not be sad or scared when the real face behind the mask is revealed. Rather consider yourself lucky to see and feel what is real from the illusion. The faces behind the mask are many,  like switch,  the wearer turns and changes each one them whenever he wants. What you see is what they want you to see. We are all wearing masks.... The smiles can be quickly replaced with a frown and the gaze of L OK be with that of hatred. The switch of what is real and what is fake is very thin.... Once the mask is uncovered there is no going back.... You know what they say,  the cover is blown open..... Be careful of who you consider real,  because it can just be a mask worn for your eyes

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FORGETTING THE PAINS

my scar story continues. Right now, I see myself gradually forgetting about the pains. When the incident occurred,i could remember even the smallest things. But if you ask me to talk about them today, I tend to forget some painful facts.... Not surprisingly, that's the work of time. With time you come out of the darkest episode of your life a better person. So when people ask me how they could be relieved from the aches they feel in their hearts, I tell them to give it some time.... Time is a great weapon that diminishes the worst kind of memory. Readers out there,  I don't know what you wish you can completely erase from your memory and never think about it,  all I can say to you,  is that you give it time....... Thanks for reading

ARE BIRDS OF SAME FEATHER LIKELY TO FLOCK IN RELATIONSHIPS?

Do Opposites Attract Or Does Like Attract Like In Relationships? Understanding The Science Of Love. According to Lizette Boreli, In relationships, partners claim they want someone who is different but prefer someone with the same personality. So do opposites really attract, or do birds of a feather flock together?

When it comes to relationships, finding the ideal partner could be easy for some and difficult for others because it’s heavily dependent on the characteristics we value most in a mate. The answer to whether opposites attract, or like attracts like, has been an ongoing debate that has both passed and failed the test of time. People are often interested in whether couple similarity, or complementarity, is indicative of relationship outcomes — satisfaction and quality, for instance. It puts into question if birds of a feather who flock together are better off than partners comparable to oil and vinegar.
OPPOSITES ATTRACT VS. LIKE ATTRACTS LIKE
“Likes” may attract better than “opposites” when it comes to settling down and finding a mate, since people subconsciously seek out mates who have similar traits as themselves. Although there are successful pairings of opposites, such as TV couples Ted and Robin from How I Met Your Mother , or Jay and Gloria from Modern Family , it is not unusual for couples to have a tall and short, or loud and soft-spoken dyad, but this starts with a match. Initially, we like those who like us in return, says Psychology Today , which suggests we prefer consistency in our desires, thoughts, and attitudes. We are drawn to those who are similar to us because it affirms our own characteristics are normal, or desirable.
Stacy Lynn Harp , a clinically trained marriage and family therapist in Tennessee, believes most of us attract people we have things in common with. “Likeness attracts likeness. It's actually a myth that opposites attract,” Harp told Medical Daily in an email. “Those who are seeking people who are similar understand that long term compatibility is more likely with someone who is like themselves.”
A 2008 study published in the journal Evolutionary Psychology found individuals desired a partner who resembled them in terms of personality, and also desired a complementary partner instead of a similar one when it came to general preferences. People may be attracted to those who have similar attitudes, values, and beliefs, and may even marry them based on this similarity since attitudes are highly visible and fundamental to the way people live their lives. Personality-related characteristics, however, take much longer to unfold and may not play a substantial role until later in the relationship.