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Wednesday 31 August 2016
MAKE-UP WONDERS
Hi Readers, today I am going to be writing about something new, something fresh and intriguing. And you are going to be sinking deep with me on this one. You will see your imagination running wide and you will become lost in the depth of this topic... Yes, it's the wonders that make up do. By wonders, the effects of its powerful transformation. I am not saying this to sell the idea of make up, neither is my write up targeted at promoting it industries and brands, but I am awestruck at what make up can do. People you know and are familiar with becomes totally unrecognizable and somehow remade.
I feel make up creates an illusion. Makes us look in waking life how we can only look in our dreams. Most ladies no longer apply body creams to fine tune their skin, some others see no reason for skin treatments. All they need to do to come out, stand out and garner the necessary attention, is to have that effective make up on. Their confidence is as solid as the gilbratal rock, only when they are in that transformed state by make up.
I am not writing to criticize those who rely on makeup transformation, looking good is good business and I am a proud supporter of good business. I also apply these makeup that just make me look so damn beautiful. One-day I got the inspiration to discuss this topic after using my powder and realised how transformed I looked. I turned to my sister who admired me and the only thing that I could say was" men are in trouble". Are you wondering why I said that? My next article on Makeup Wonders will expatiate on that statement... Thanks for reading.... See you next post.....
MAKE-UP WONDERS
Hi Readers, today I am going to be writing about something new, something fresh and intriguing. And you are going to be sinking deep with me on this one. You will see your imagination running wide and you will become lost in the depth of this topic... Yes, it's the wonders that make up do. By wonders, the effects of its powerful transformation. I am not saying this to sell the idea of make up, neither is my write up targeted at promoting it industries and brands, but I am awestruck at what make up can do. People you know and are familiar with becomes totally unrecognizable and somehow remade.
I feel make up creates an illusion. Makes us look in waking life how we can only look in our dreams. Most ladies no longer apply body creams to fine tune their skin, some others see no reason for skin treatments. All they need to do to come out, stand out and garner the necessary attention, is to have that effective make up on. Their confidence is as solid as the gilbratal rock, only when they are in that transformed state by make up.
I am not writing to criticize those who rely on makeup transformation, looking good is good business and I am a proud supporter of good business. I also apply these makeup that just make me look so damn beautiful. One-day I got the inspiration to discuss this topic after using my powder and realised how transformed I looked. I turned to my sister who admired me and the only thing that I could say was" men are in trouble". Are you wondering why I said that? My next article on Makeup Wonders will expatiate on that statement... Thanks for reading.... See you next post.....
MAKE UP WONDERS
Hi Readers, today I am going to be writing about something new, something fresh and intriguing. And you are going to be sinking deep with me on this one. You will see your imagination running wide and you will become lost in the depth of this topic... Yes, it's the wonders that make up do. By wonders, the effects of its powerful transformation. I am not saying this to sell the idea of make up, neither is my write up targeted at promoting it industries and brands, but I am awestruck at what make up can do. People you know and are familiar with becomes totally unrecognizable and somehow remade.
I feel make up creates an illusion. Makes us look in waking life how we can only look in our dreams. Most ladies no longer apply body creams to fine tune their skin, some others see no reason for skin treatments. All they need to do to come out, stand out and garner the necessary attention, is to have that effective make up on. Their confidence is as solid as the gilbratal rock, only when they are in that transformed state by make up.
I am not writing to criticize those who rely on makeup transformation, looking good is good business and I am a proud supporter of good business. I also apply these makeup that just make me look so damn beautiful. One-day I got the inspiration to discuss this topic after using my powder and realised how transformed I looked. I turned to my sister who admired me and the only thing that I could say was" men are in trouble". Are you wondering why I said that? My next article on Makeup Wonders will expatiate on that statement... Thanks for reading.... See you next post.....
Saturday 27 August 2016
NEWS UPDATE
UPDATES:
Kogi Governor stoned at Jumat Prayer.
I planned to abduct Otedola –Mastermind of Senator Anisulowo’s kidnap.
GSM tax: Labour, CLOs fume, threaten showdown.
Rivers rerun: PDP plans to scuttle elections using judiciary – Abe.
Chickens forced to skip meals as cost of poultry feed rises by 100%.
Politicians, others ignore IG, enjoy police protection.
Boat accident victims not World Bank officials —Ekiti govt.
Padding: DSS operatives spend 28th day at Reps’ appropriation secretariat.
Chibok parents bypass campaigners, seek audience with Buhari.
Nigeria’s socio-economic crisis enormous but surmountable –Amosun.
We won’t reverse ban on building materials importation –Fashola.
Police microfinance bank targets two million customers.
Yola varsity shelves plan to recruit First Class holders.
Seminarian’s killing: Herdsmen flee Enugu over fears of reprisal.
Police arrest 29 robbery suspects, recover 12 cars.
Stella Oduah loses son.
STF restricts tricycle operation in Jos.
EFCC arrests five varsity students for N16m fraud.
Over $40bn allocated to Niger Delta in last 12 yrs –Kachikwu.
Buhari approves governing boards for NPA, NIMASA.
Covenant University graduate emerges best at COREN competition.
Many parents who can’t pay children’s fees abroad now come to us – Babcock.
Tame militants to achieve development, Kachikwu tells Clark.
Dogara, Nine Others Receive Over N10bn As Allowances, Jibrin Alleges.
Liberia Marks Joint Celebration Of Its 169th Anniversary And Flag Day.
FAAC distributes N493.828b July revenue.
Borno orders chairmen to relocate IDPs to communities.
Kogi Governor stoned at Jumat Prayer.
I planned to abduct Otedola –Mastermind of Senator Anisulowo’s kidnap.
GSM tax: Labour, CLOs fume, threaten showdown.
Rivers rerun: PDP plans to scuttle elections using judiciary – Abe.
Chickens forced to skip meals as cost of poultry feed rises by 100%.
Politicians, others ignore IG, enjoy police protection.
Boat accident victims not World Bank officials —Ekiti govt.
Padding: DSS operatives spend 28th day at Reps’ appropriation secretariat.
Chibok parents bypass campaigners, seek audience with Buhari.
Nigeria’s socio-economic crisis enormous but surmountable –Amosun.
We won’t reverse ban on building materials importation –Fashola.
Police microfinance bank targets two million customers.
Yola varsity shelves plan to recruit First Class holders.
Seminarian’s killing: Herdsmen flee Enugu over fears of reprisal.
Police arrest 29 robbery suspects, recover 12 cars.
Stella Oduah loses son.
STF restricts tricycle operation in Jos.
EFCC arrests five varsity students for N16m fraud.
Over $40bn allocated to Niger Delta in last 12 yrs –Kachikwu.
Buhari approves governing boards for NPA, NIMASA.
Covenant University graduate emerges best at COREN competition.
Many parents who can’t pay children’s fees abroad now come to us – Babcock.
Tame militants to achieve development, Kachikwu tells Clark.
Dogara, Nine Others Receive Over N10bn As Allowances, Jibrin Alleges.
Liberia Marks Joint Celebration Of Its 169th Anniversary And Flag Day.
FAAC distributes N493.828b July revenue.
Borno orders chairmen to relocate IDPs to communities.
Wednesday 24 August 2016
Today's 5 Health And Fitness tips
Pick your perfect tunes
Running with music is a great way to get in a groove (just make sure it's not blasting too loudly, or you won't hear those cars!). To pick the ultimate iPod playlist, think about what gets you going. "I know several elite athletes that listen to what we'd consider 'relaxing' music, such as symphony music, while they do a hard workout," says Andrew Kastor. So don't feel like you have to download Lady Gaga because her tunes are supposed to pump you up—go with any music that you find uplifting.
2.When to weigh
You've been following your diet for a whole week. Weigh to go! Now it's time to start tracking your progress (and make sure pesky pounds don't find their way back on). "It's best to step on the scale in the morning before eating or drinking—and prior to plunging into your daily activities," says Newgent. For the most reliable number, be sure to check your poundage at a consistent time, whether daily or weekly.
3. Police your portions
Does your steak take up more than half your plate? Think about cutting your serving of beef in half. That's because it's best to try and fill half your plate with veggies or a mixture of veggies and fresh fruit, says Newgent, so that it's harder to overdo it on the more caloric dishes (like cheesy potatoes or barbecue sauce–slathered ribs—yum!).
4. Combat cocktail hour
Is it ladies' night? If you know you'll be imbibing more than one drink, feel (and sip!) right by always ordering water between cocktails, says Newgent. That way, you won't rack up sneaky liquid calories (and ruin your inhibition to resist those mozzarella sticks!). But your H20 doesn't have to be ho-hum. "Make it festive by ordering the sparkling variety with plenty of fruit, like a lime, lemon, and orange wedge in a martini or highball glass," adds Newgent.
5. Eat this, run that
When you have a 5- or 10K (you get to eat more with a half or full marathon) on your calendar, it's important to plan out what you're going to eat the morning of the big day—something that will keep you fueled and also go down easy. While everyone is different, "We always have good luck with a high-carbohydrate breakfast such as a small bowl of oatmeal with fruit or a couple of pieces of toast with peanut butter or cream cheese," says Andrew Kastor, who also advises eating around 200 to 250 (primarily carb) calories about 90 minutes before you warm up for your run . And don't worry about nixing your a.m. caffeine fix on race day. "Coffee is great for athletic performances," Kastor adds, because it makes you sharper and may even give you extended energy. Talk about buzz-worthy!
Running with music is a great way to get in a groove (just make sure it's not blasting too loudly, or you won't hear those cars!). To pick the ultimate iPod playlist, think about what gets you going. "I know several elite athletes that listen to what we'd consider 'relaxing' music, such as symphony music, while they do a hard workout," says Andrew Kastor. So don't feel like you have to download Lady Gaga because her tunes are supposed to pump you up—go with any music that you find uplifting.
2.When to weigh
You've been following your diet for a whole week. Weigh to go! Now it's time to start tracking your progress (and make sure pesky pounds don't find their way back on). "It's best to step on the scale in the morning before eating or drinking—and prior to plunging into your daily activities," says Newgent. For the most reliable number, be sure to check your poundage at a consistent time, whether daily or weekly.
3. Police your portions
Does your steak take up more than half your plate? Think about cutting your serving of beef in half. That's because it's best to try and fill half your plate with veggies or a mixture of veggies and fresh fruit, says Newgent, so that it's harder to overdo it on the more caloric dishes (like cheesy potatoes or barbecue sauce–slathered ribs—yum!).
Is it ladies' night? If you know you'll be imbibing more than one drink, feel (and sip!) right by always ordering water between cocktails, says Newgent. That way, you won't rack up sneaky liquid calories (and ruin your inhibition to resist those mozzarella sticks!). But your H20 doesn't have to be ho-hum. "Make it festive by ordering the sparkling variety with plenty of fruit, like a lime, lemon, and orange wedge in a martini or highball glass," adds Newgent.
5. Eat this, run that
When you have a 5- or 10K (you get to eat more with a half or full marathon) on your calendar, it's important to plan out what you're going to eat the morning of the big day—something that will keep you fueled and also go down easy. While everyone is different, "We always have good luck with a high-carbohydrate breakfast such as a small bowl of oatmeal with fruit or a couple of pieces of toast with peanut butter or cream cheese," says Andrew Kastor, who also advises eating around 200 to 250 (primarily carb) calories about 90 minutes before you warm up for your run . And don't worry about nixing your a.m. caffeine fix on race day. "Coffee is great for athletic performances," Kastor adds, because it makes you sharper and may even give you extended energy. Talk about buzz-worthy!
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TODAY'S 5 FITNESS TIPS
I will be posting some fitness tips by Leslie Barrie daily. I will break them into five fitness tips each day. Here are some five for today.
1. Curb your sweet tooth
Got a late-night sugar craving that just won't quit? "To satisfy your sweet tooth without pushing yourself over the calorie edge, even in the late night hours, think 'fruit first,'" says Jackie Newgent, RD, author of
The Big Green Cookbook . So resist that chocolate cake siren, and instead enjoy a sliced apple with a tablespoon of nut butter (like peanut or almond) or fresh fig halves spread with ricotta. Then sleep sweet, knowing you're still on the right, healthy track.
2. Find the best fitness friend
A workout buddy is hugely helpful for keeping motivated, but it's important to find someone who will inspire—not discourage. So make a list of all your exercise-loving friends, then see who fits this criteria, says Andrew Kastor, an ASICS running coach: Can your pal meet to exercise on a regular basis? Is she supportive (not disparaging) of your goals? And last, will your bud be able to keep up with you or even push your limits in key workouts? If you've got someone that fits all three, make that phone call.
3. Stock up on these
While there are heaps of good-for-you foods out there, some key ingredients make it a lot easier to meet your weight-loss goals. Next grocery store run, be sure to place Newgent's top three diet-friendly items in your cart: balsamic vinegar (it adds a pop of low-cal flavor to veggies and salads), in-shell nuts (their protein and fiber keep you satiated), and fat-free plain yogurt (a creamy, comforting source of protein). "Plus, Greek yogurt also works wonders as a natural low-calorie base for dressings and dips—or as a tangier alternative to sour cream," says Newgent. Talk about a multitasker!
4. Relieve those achy muscles
After a grueling workout, there's a good chance you're going to be feeling it (we're talking sore thighs, tight calves). Relieve post-fitness aches by submerging your lower body in a cold bath (50 to 55 degrees Fahrenheit; you may have to throw some ice cubes in to get it cold enough) for 10 to 15 minutes. "Many top athletes use this trick to help reduce soreness after training sessions," says Andrew Kastor. And advice we love: "An athlete training for an important race should consider getting one to two massages per month to help aid in training recovery," adds Kastor. Now that's speaking our language!
Buy comfy sneaks
You shouldn't buy kicks that hurt, bottom line! "Your shoes should feel comfortable from the first step," says Andrew Kastor. So shop in the evening—your feet swell during the day and stop in the late afternoon, so you want to shop when they're at their biggest. Also make sure the sneaks are a little roomy—enough so that you can wiggle your toes, but no more than that. They should be comfy from the get-go, but Kastor says they'll be even more so once you have a good 20 to 40 miles on them.
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1. Curb your sweet tooth
Got a late-night sugar craving that just won't quit? "To satisfy your sweet tooth without pushing yourself over the calorie edge, even in the late night hours, think 'fruit first,'" says Jackie Newgent, RD, author of
The Big Green Cookbook . So resist that chocolate cake siren, and instead enjoy a sliced apple with a tablespoon of nut butter (like peanut or almond) or fresh fig halves spread with ricotta. Then sleep sweet, knowing you're still on the right, healthy track.
2. Find the best fitness friend
A workout buddy is hugely helpful for keeping motivated, but it's important to find someone who will inspire—not discourage. So make a list of all your exercise-loving friends, then see who fits this criteria, says Andrew Kastor, an ASICS running coach: Can your pal meet to exercise on a regular basis? Is she supportive (not disparaging) of your goals? And last, will your bud be able to keep up with you or even push your limits in key workouts? If you've got someone that fits all three, make that phone call.
3. Stock up on these
While there are heaps of good-for-you foods out there, some key ingredients make it a lot easier to meet your weight-loss goals. Next grocery store run, be sure to place Newgent's top three diet-friendly items in your cart: balsamic vinegar (it adds a pop of low-cal flavor to veggies and salads), in-shell nuts (their protein and fiber keep you satiated), and fat-free plain yogurt (a creamy, comforting source of protein). "Plus, Greek yogurt also works wonders as a natural low-calorie base for dressings and dips—or as a tangier alternative to sour cream," says Newgent. Talk about a multitasker!
4. Relieve those achy muscles
After a grueling workout, there's a good chance you're going to be feeling it (we're talking sore thighs, tight calves). Relieve post-fitness aches by submerging your lower body in a cold bath (50 to 55 degrees Fahrenheit; you may have to throw some ice cubes in to get it cold enough) for 10 to 15 minutes. "Many top athletes use this trick to help reduce soreness after training sessions," says Andrew Kastor. And advice we love: "An athlete training for an important race should consider getting one to two massages per month to help aid in training recovery," adds Kastor. Now that's speaking our language!
Buy comfy sneaks
You shouldn't buy kicks that hurt, bottom line! "Your shoes should feel comfortable from the first step," says Andrew Kastor. So shop in the evening—your feet swell during the day and stop in the late afternoon, so you want to shop when they're at their biggest. Also make sure the sneaks are a little roomy—enough so that you can wiggle your toes, but no more than that. They should be comfy from the get-go, but Kastor says they'll be even more so once you have a good 20 to 40 miles on them.
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Nigerian Movies Worst Nightmare
In continuation of my previous post on piracy, what can the filmmakers do to secure their movies and not lose their profits to pirates.
Bootlegging is also common in the Nigerian music industry. In fact, upcoming acts patronize the pirates to include their songs in pirated CDs and DVDs or mix-tapes to make them popular. Almost everyone has become entangled in the vicious circle of piracy. And this is the nightmare of every film distributor in every part of the world.
We might as well negotiate with the pirates of movies and songs and reach a mutual agreement with them for the general distribution of our movies and songs.
Is my suggestion ludicrous? But, such an expedient resolution may be the solution for the elimination of piracy in the entertainment industry.
Nigerian filmmakers need accountable and responsible film distributors who are honest and transparent and are not partners in crime with the pirates.
If you give your movie to a film distributor, then you should also make sure that the film distributor will be responsible for the safety of the movie from the film distribution office to the cinema or from the street to the internet.
Check out the track records of a film distributor before you give your movie to him or her.
Can the film distributor be trusted?
A good film distributor should also have good marketing and publicity for films and not a film distributor that does little or nothing to promote movies.
Publicity should be a multimedia strategy, including press releases, press conferences, radio and TV interviews and social media promotions.
If the publicity of a movie is not well done, the movie may flop at the cinemas. Mismanaged publicity plans have made many Nigerian movies to flop, because of inadequate budget and poor planning.
If a filmmaker does not have enough budget for the promotion of a movie, the film distributor should take up the responsibility, because the more movie goers your publicity attracts to the cinemas, the more money your movie will make and you will make more profit.
There is no successful film distribution without film promotion.
The highest grossing Nollywood movie so far, “30 Days in Atlanta” produced by popular comedian Ayo Makun and directed by Robert Peters succeeded, because of a good publicity plan by the filmmakers, film distributors and film exhibitors. That is why the romantic comedy made more money at the cinemas than the so called most expensive Nigerian movies “Half of a Yellow Sun” and “Doctor Bello”.
Poor PR and poor publicity made both films to flop. Even the hype of the celebrated Nollywood diva, Genevieve Nnaji as the Box Office Queen of “Half of a Yellow Sun” was ambiguous and erroneous, because the publicist failed to show what made her the “Box Office Queen” of Nollywood when most of her movies flopped at the cinemas. If you spend US$500, 000 for a movie starring the “Box Office Queen” and you made only half of your film production budget at the few cinemas in Nigeria, is that what makes her a “Box Office Queen”? And she did not even play a leading role in “Half of a Yellow Sun”. That was a wrong publicity strategy.
The publicists did not even know how to use sound bites and they were actually confused.
The film was also given to the wrong film distributor that did not have any proven success record for film promotion and has no publicity for one of the most expected films in 2014.
A Biafran war film that failed to attract even a quarter of the Igbos who were the worst victims of that war and then casting the most popular Igbo actress in Nollywood as a Yoruba woman when a sensational Funke Akindele or Queen of Nollywood, Omotola Jalade-Ekeinde would have made the cameo role of Genevieve Nnaji as “Ms Adebayo” more attractive to millions of Yorubas.
Then the leading Black British actors were too snobbish to grant interviews to the most popular film critics and bloggers in Nigeria, but they rushed to be interviewed by the foreign news media for their other Hollywood movies competing for the Oscars. But the filmmakers and film distributors could not use them to promote the film in Nigeria. Then, the hyenas of the film industry, the movie pirates pounced on it and worsened the nightmares of the filmmakers and confused film distributors.
Any film distributor that is reluctant to spend enough money for the publicity of your movie is not good enough for you.
You have to see that the film distributor has a functional department for marketing and publicity.
Bootlegging is also common in the Nigerian music industry. In fact, upcoming acts patronize the pirates to include their songs in pirated CDs and DVDs or mix-tapes to make them popular. Almost everyone has become entangled in the vicious circle of piracy. And this is the nightmare of every film distributor in every part of the world.
We might as well negotiate with the pirates of movies and songs and reach a mutual agreement with them for the general distribution of our movies and songs.
Is my suggestion ludicrous? But, such an expedient resolution may be the solution for the elimination of piracy in the entertainment industry.
Nigerian filmmakers need accountable and responsible film distributors who are honest and transparent and are not partners in crime with the pirates.
If you give your movie to a film distributor, then you should also make sure that the film distributor will be responsible for the safety of the movie from the film distribution office to the cinema or from the street to the internet.
Check out the track records of a film distributor before you give your movie to him or her.
Can the film distributor be trusted?
A good film distributor should also have good marketing and publicity for films and not a film distributor that does little or nothing to promote movies.
Publicity should be a multimedia strategy, including press releases, press conferences, radio and TV interviews and social media promotions.
If the publicity of a movie is not well done, the movie may flop at the cinemas. Mismanaged publicity plans have made many Nigerian movies to flop, because of inadequate budget and poor planning.
If a filmmaker does not have enough budget for the promotion of a movie, the film distributor should take up the responsibility, because the more movie goers your publicity attracts to the cinemas, the more money your movie will make and you will make more profit.
There is no successful film distribution without film promotion.
The highest grossing Nollywood movie so far, “30 Days in Atlanta” produced by popular comedian Ayo Makun and directed by Robert Peters succeeded, because of a good publicity plan by the filmmakers, film distributors and film exhibitors. That is why the romantic comedy made more money at the cinemas than the so called most expensive Nigerian movies “Half of a Yellow Sun” and “Doctor Bello”.
Poor PR and poor publicity made both films to flop. Even the hype of the celebrated Nollywood diva, Genevieve Nnaji as the Box Office Queen of “Half of a Yellow Sun” was ambiguous and erroneous, because the publicist failed to show what made her the “Box Office Queen” of Nollywood when most of her movies flopped at the cinemas. If you spend US$500, 000 for a movie starring the “Box Office Queen” and you made only half of your film production budget at the few cinemas in Nigeria, is that what makes her a “Box Office Queen”? And she did not even play a leading role in “Half of a Yellow Sun”. That was a wrong publicity strategy.
The publicists did not even know how to use sound bites and they were actually confused.
The film was also given to the wrong film distributor that did not have any proven success record for film promotion and has no publicity for one of the most expected films in 2014.
A Biafran war film that failed to attract even a quarter of the Igbos who were the worst victims of that war and then casting the most popular Igbo actress in Nollywood as a Yoruba woman when a sensational Funke Akindele or Queen of Nollywood, Omotola Jalade-Ekeinde would have made the cameo role of Genevieve Nnaji as “Ms Adebayo” more attractive to millions of Yorubas.
Then the leading Black British actors were too snobbish to grant interviews to the most popular film critics and bloggers in Nigeria, but they rushed to be interviewed by the foreign news media for their other Hollywood movies competing for the Oscars. But the filmmakers and film distributors could not use them to promote the film in Nigeria. Then, the hyenas of the film industry, the movie pirates pounced on it and worsened the nightmares of the filmmakers and confused film distributors.
Any film distributor that is reluctant to spend enough money for the publicity of your movie is not good enough for you.
You have to see that the film distributor has a functional department for marketing and publicity.
Sunday 21 August 2016
Nigerian Movie Industry Latest Review On Piracy
Nigeria has a peculiar film industry.
The Nigerian film industry does not have a formal film market, but there is active film distribution in Africa’s largest film industry.
The Nigerian film industry which comprises of Nollywood and Kannywood is estimated to be worth more than US$ 590 million annually; producing over 2, 400 movies annually and employing more than 1, 000, 000 people every year. But there are no statistics to confirm these reports, because they are not facts.
If the Nigerian film industry is really booming, then why are many of the filmmakers and actors still poor and powerless? In fact, majority of them cannot pay their bills!
Not trying to kick most of them when they are down, some fall critically ill, the industry cannot help them out. They are famous but broke. Some even have to come down from their high horse and seek help from the public. What baffles me the most is, why can't the few who is doing well, I am talking about the sponsors, marketers and investors in the sector lend a helping hand to those who are sick. Let's not dwell much on this, it will be a topic to be dealt with another day.
Many of them are no longer producing movies and have turned to political campaigners to make money for their survival and welfare. Several of them spent more time at political campaign rallies than on film locations in 2015.
Only few of the active practitioners in Nollywood and Kannywood are comfortable.
The filmmakers are the most important sector of the Nigerian film industry, because they are the producers of the movies and without them, there will be no film industry. Then after them, the second most important stakeholders are the film distributors; bringing and selling the movies to the consumers through the film exhibitors owing the cinemas, vendors of the DVDs and online exhibitors.
The biggest problem and threat to the film industry is movie piracy.
Movie piracy is a global crime that started even before the emergence of the Nigerian film industry.
Piracy of movies has become worse with the development of new formats for film distribution using digital technologies like CDs, DVDs, VODs and online streaming platforms. And the pirates are not invisible, but they have become invincible. They have refused to stop their crimes all over the world. An wherever they cannot operate openly, they continue to flourish underground.
Movie piracy is worse in Nigeria, because the pirates operate with brazen impunity and are more powerful than both the filmmakers and film distributors. In fact, the filmmakers are afraid of the risks of confronting them. That is why the pirates are the biggest and largest distributors of movies in Nigeria with their vendors on every street and bus stop, and also on the internet. And they continue to thrive, because they offer more movies at cheaper prices to the consumers than the filmmakers and their distributors. They can package dozens of counterfeit movies and TV series in one single DVD for less than US$1, or N150, when the original movies are selling for more than US$200 for one title.
Majority of the consumers in Nigeria are the best customers of the pirates and they include the loudest noisemakers in the churches and anti-corruption crusaders who condemn corruption in Nigeria, but are also guilty of being the largest market for piracy, the worst corruption in the entertainment industry, the second largest employer of workers in Nigeria.
There is no way you can talk about film distribution without talking about movie piracy. The tragedy of piracy in Nigeria is the fact that even the filmmakers, music producers, artistes, distributors, exhibitors and vendors are all consumers of pirated movies, music recordings or books online and offline. You will see the film producer cursing pirates of his or her movie, going around the corner of the street to buy pirated music tapes or download the songs online. The musician or singer whining about pirates selling his songs illegally will turn around to buy pirated movies or download them from unauthorized websites. We will continue more on the Nigerian movies worst nightmare,...piracy
The Nigerian film industry does not have a formal film market, but there is active film distribution in Africa’s largest film industry.
The Nigerian film industry which comprises of Nollywood and Kannywood is estimated to be worth more than US$ 590 million annually; producing over 2, 400 movies annually and employing more than 1, 000, 000 people every year. But there are no statistics to confirm these reports, because they are not facts.
If the Nigerian film industry is really booming, then why are many of the filmmakers and actors still poor and powerless? In fact, majority of them cannot pay their bills!
Many of them are no longer producing movies and have turned to political campaigners to make money for their survival and welfare. Several of them spent more time at political campaign rallies than on film locations in 2015.
Only few of the active practitioners in Nollywood and Kannywood are comfortable.
The filmmakers are the most important sector of the Nigerian film industry, because they are the producers of the movies and without them, there will be no film industry. Then after them, the second most important stakeholders are the film distributors; bringing and selling the movies to the consumers through the film exhibitors owing the cinemas, vendors of the DVDs and online exhibitors.
The biggest problem and threat to the film industry is movie piracy.
Movie piracy is a global crime that started even before the emergence of the Nigerian film industry.
Piracy of movies has become worse with the development of new formats for film distribution using digital technologies like CDs, DVDs, VODs and online streaming platforms. And the pirates are not invisible, but they have become invincible. They have refused to stop their crimes all over the world. An wherever they cannot operate openly, they continue to flourish underground.
Movie piracy is worse in Nigeria, because the pirates operate with brazen impunity and are more powerful than both the filmmakers and film distributors. In fact, the filmmakers are afraid of the risks of confronting them. That is why the pirates are the biggest and largest distributors of movies in Nigeria with their vendors on every street and bus stop, and also on the internet. And they continue to thrive, because they offer more movies at cheaper prices to the consumers than the filmmakers and their distributors. They can package dozens of counterfeit movies and TV series in one single DVD for less than US$1, or N150, when the original movies are selling for more than US$200 for one title.
Majority of the consumers in Nigeria are the best customers of the pirates and they include the loudest noisemakers in the churches and anti-corruption crusaders who condemn corruption in Nigeria, but are also guilty of being the largest market for piracy, the worst corruption in the entertainment industry, the second largest employer of workers in Nigeria.
There is no way you can talk about film distribution without talking about movie piracy. The tragedy of piracy in Nigeria is the fact that even the filmmakers, music producers, artistes, distributors, exhibitors and vendors are all consumers of pirated movies, music recordings or books online and offline. You will see the film producer cursing pirates of his or her movie, going around the corner of the street to buy pirated music tapes or download the songs online. The musician or singer whining about pirates selling his songs illegally will turn around to buy pirated movies or download them from unauthorized websites. We will continue more on the Nigerian movies worst nightmare,...piracy
SEVEN STAGES OF BREAK UP GRIEVING
You fought to hold on to the relationship to the point of being all-consumed. You don’t want to believe it’s actually ending. You can’t believe it. Even if the relationship was awful, even unbearable at times, the idea of living without it is unacceptable. Still, it’s becoming clear that the two of you aren’t going to make it. You are finally starting to compute that it’s over. You’ve gone from, “Don't leave!” to “Okay, I give up.” But you still feel anything but okay. The moment you get off the phone with your ex, or the texting finally stops, or you leave each other’s space, you experience withdrawal, and you are hit relentlessly by the reality of the loss. It can be a brutal process, and it can take a long time until you feel deserving of investing in your own independent, reshaped life path.
You may have known somewhere within you that this breakup was coming, even for months or years, and yet you are still blindsided. No matter how the lead-up has looked, now that the breakup is actually happening, you may be overwhelmed, immobilized and haunted by fear, loss and despair about life without this person. Following are some of the stages you can anticipate going through—they often occur all at once, or in varying orders at varying times during the process of letting go:
1. Desperate For Answers
The drive to know is consuming and can come at the expense of rational thoughts and behaviors. Youmust understand why this happened, maybe beyond anyone’s ability to explain it. You fixate on things your ex said at various times that you see as contradicting the breakup, and you hold onto them now as if they are gospel. Yet somewhere within, you have moments of clarity, too. You likely swing back and forth between foggy disbelief, the daily, moment by moment rediscovery of the magnitude of your loss, and flashes of painful clarity that of course it’s over. The pain, disorganization, and confusion can become all you think about, or talk about. But initially, you remain driven to understand what happened, at any cost. The desperation to make sense of something so jarring compels you to debate friends, family, coworkers, even strangers, about why the relationship ended, while you justify to them the reasons it shouldn’t have, as if convincing them it is equal to convincing your ex.
2. Denial
It can’t be true. This isn’t happening! You just cannot bewithout your ex. It feels like you’ve put everything you are into this relationship. It’s been your world, your life. You cannot accept that it’s over. You funnel every last hope into saving it, even at the expense of your well-being. You postpone your need to grieve its end, because it’s just too painful to face. In so doing, you temporarily derail thegrieving process by replacing it with unrealistically inflated hope that the relationship can still be salvaged.
3. Bargaining
You are willing to do anything to avoid accepting it’s over. You’ll be a better, more attentive partner. Everything that’s been wrong, you’ll make right. The thought of being without your ex is so intolerable that you will make your own pain go away by winning him or her back, at any cost. Of course, you’re not logical at this point (and probably shouldn't be operating heavy machinery). You are standing on the edge of what feels like an abyss, trying not to fall into the unknown. You cling to any hope you can, to prevent yourself from losing what you have come to depend on, for better or worse. However, during this phase, when you promise to fix all the problems between you, you are placing the entire burden of repairing, maintaining, and sustaining a relationship onto yourself. It's as if the responsibility is yours and yours alone to make it work this time. Try your hardest during this phase not to lose sight of the fact thatboth participants in the relationship contributed to its end. You can’t possibly take responsibility for everything. Somewhere inside, you know that.
Bargaining can only briefly distract from the experience of loss. Reality inevitably comes crashing down, over and over again. Further, when you bargain, you are trying to take responsibility for why the relationship doesn't work, which may give you the illusion that you have control over it, perpetuating the belief that it's salvageable as long as you can just keep performing superhuman acts.
4. Relapse
Because the pain is so intolerable, you may actually be able to convince your ex to try again (this may not be the first breakup with this partner). You will temporarily relieve the agony of withdrawal. However, despite your best efforts, you will not be able to carry the relationship solo. I'm sorry to say, it probably won’t end well this time, either. Unfortunately, you may need to go through this process of breaking up and reconciling more than once before you're absolutely convinced it's time to let go.
5. Anger
Initially, you may not be able to connect with feelings of anger. Breaking up plummets you into the unknown, which can evoke immobilizing fear and dread. Fear, at that point, trumps anger. Therefore, when anger sets in, it's because you have let go of some of your fear, at least temporarily. When you’re able to access anger, the experience can actually be empowering—because at the very least there are shades of rememberingyou matter too, of feeling justified in realizing that youdeserve more from a relationship. Depending on your specific temperament, life, and family experiences, as well as your unique breakup, your anger may be directed at your partner, the situation, or yourself. The good news is that your anger, no matter where it’s directed, is meant to empower you, whether you choose to see it that way or not. When anger becomes accessible to you, it can provide direction and create a feeling of aliveness in a world that’s become deadened by loss. It can also remind you that you deserve more. Even anger at yourself, as paralyzing and self-defeating as it may be, is still part of the grieving process. The fact that you are on the trajectory of grieving the loss is a sign that you are working through. It indicates that somewhere within, you are creating enough internal discomfort to help shift your perspective about how the relationship has actually been, and it can compel you to make proactive changes, if you are ready to let it.
6. Initial Acceptance
This is the kind of acceptance that, when it happens early in the process, can feel more like surrender. You are holding up your end of the breakup because you have to, not because you want to. Either you or your ex has developed enough awareness and control at this point to recognize that you are not meant to be. Over time, this initial, often tenuous acceptance becomes more substantive, as both of you begin to recognize, independently, that there are boundaries that at least one of you must maintain in order for the breakup to stick, because it has to. You are finally grasping that's it’s just not good for you to keep trying anymore.
7. Redirected Hope
You were leveled by the breakup and have had difficulty letting go, in part because it shattered your relationship with hope. As acceptance deepens, moving forward requires redirecting your feelings of hope—from the belief that you can singlehandedly save a failing relationship to the possibility that you just might be okay without your ex. It’s jarring when forced to redirect your hope from the known entity of the relationship into the abyss of the unknown. But this is an opportunity to redirect the life force of hope. Regardless, hope is somewhere in your reserves and you will access it again as you continue to allow some meaningful distance between you and your ex.
The stages of grief that follow any trauma, breakups included, can happen over the course of minutes or even seconds, across days, months, or years, and then switch around without warning, leaving you feeling without foundation, especially in the beginning. You feel alien to yourself or cut off from the world. However, like any emotional amputation, continuing on in life means learning to live without that part of yourself, and finding ways to compensate for its loss. Furthermore, recognize that there is a method, and a structure of sorts to this chaotic grieving process. Knowing that you are not alone can help you ride it out. Your grieving is part of the human condition—without it, we would not be wired the way we are to handle the many pains and losses that occur in our lives. As the grieving process progresses you will begin to see your way through to a point at which you can let go in a more proactive and self-protective way—a way that you may eventually come to understand as a new beginning.
Saturday 20 August 2016
Friday 19 August 2016
LOVE IS A MYSTERY
Love is mostly tender and quiet.
Love is a light that allows people to see things that are not seen by others.
Romantic love is a deep emotional, sexual and spiritual recognition and regard for the value of another person and relationship.
Romantic love can generate many powerful feelings. It can provide a profound ecstasy, and a deep suffering when frustrated. To some people, romantic love is irrational. Romantic love can seem like an emotional storm.
This paper is really a collection of experiences, thoughts, readings, and the result of my discussions with people falling in and out of love. I am most inspired to write when I meet someone in love or someone feeling crushed when their love was lost. You will agree with me that at some point felt this irresistible love for someone and thought we cannot live without this person. This person makes us cry and laugh to the extent that life feels meaningless without this person. But in one day everything just changed. Sometimes with the same frequency at which we love them, we suddenly hate them and never want to be part of their lives anymore.. My question is what changed?
I have had countless experiences talking to people who believe romantic love is followed by disillusionment. These people come to believe that romantic love is a false hope.
They began their relationship with romantic feelings. They had dreams for their future. They felt that life was finally rewarding and worthwhile. But eventually the relationship began to fall apart. It was a painful experience. They remember when they were in love. They feel tortured by their inability to see how or why their love was lost. Times when we convinced ourselves that we fell in love was it a figment of our imagination? The endless promises of unfailing love from that person we thought we were going to grow old with was it just romantic lines rehearsal. If romantic love is real how come it fizzles out so quickly. Today we meet A, we fall in love, at some point A begins to piss us, A becomes unbearable, A goes boring... Then we fall out of love, meets B and discover our hearts beating very fast. Then we say this is love, B becomes the centre of our world, our life and even the air we breath. Then suddenly B is gone. The love is lost. Sometimes we can tell when it ends, sometimes it remains a mystery. But what hurts the most is the thought that we couldn't hold on much longer, the feeling that it was suppose to be permanent.
I continue to imagine, is love coming and going or just the romantic love? Isn't love permanent, why does it feels so temporary? Dear readers if you have an answer to these, please leave your comments. Thanks for reading.......
Love is a light that allows people to see things that are not seen by others.
Romantic love is a deep emotional, sexual and spiritual recognition and regard for the value of another person and relationship.
Romantic love can generate many powerful feelings. It can provide a profound ecstasy, and a deep suffering when frustrated. To some people, romantic love is irrational. Romantic love can seem like an emotional storm.
This paper is really a collection of experiences, thoughts, readings, and the result of my discussions with people falling in and out of love. I am most inspired to write when I meet someone in love or someone feeling crushed when their love was lost. You will agree with me that at some point felt this irresistible love for someone and thought we cannot live without this person. This person makes us cry and laugh to the extent that life feels meaningless without this person. But in one day everything just changed. Sometimes with the same frequency at which we love them, we suddenly hate them and never want to be part of their lives anymore.. My question is what changed?
I have had countless experiences talking to people who believe romantic love is followed by disillusionment. These people come to believe that romantic love is a false hope.
They began their relationship with romantic feelings. They had dreams for their future. They felt that life was finally rewarding and worthwhile. But eventually the relationship began to fall apart. It was a painful experience. They remember when they were in love. They feel tortured by their inability to see how or why their love was lost. Times when we convinced ourselves that we fell in love was it a figment of our imagination? The endless promises of unfailing love from that person we thought we were going to grow old with was it just romantic lines rehearsal. If romantic love is real how come it fizzles out so quickly. Today we meet A, we fall in love, at some point A begins to piss us, A becomes unbearable, A goes boring... Then we fall out of love, meets B and discover our hearts beating very fast. Then we say this is love, B becomes the centre of our world, our life and even the air we breath. Then suddenly B is gone. The love is lost. Sometimes we can tell when it ends, sometimes it remains a mystery. But what hurts the most is the thought that we couldn't hold on much longer, the feeling that it was suppose to be permanent.
I continue to imagine, is love coming and going or just the romantic love? Isn't love permanent, why does it feels so temporary? Dear readers if you have an answer to these, please leave your comments. Thanks for reading.......
Thursday 18 August 2016
INSPIRING STORY-SACRIFICE
A very poor newly wedded, young couple lived in a small farm. One day the husband made the following proposal to his wife:
Honey, I will leave the house: I will travel faraway, get a job and work hard in order to come back and give you the comfortable life that you deserve. I do not know how long I will stay away, I only ask one thing, please wait for me, and while I am away, you should be faithful to me, because I will be faithful to you. His wife agreed, so the young man left. He walked many days until he found a farmer who was in need of someone to help him. The young man offered his services. He was accepted. Therefore he discussed the terms with his boss:
Let me work for as long as I want and when I think I should go home, please relieve me of my duties. I do not want to receive my salary. I ask you to save it for me, until the day I leave. The day I decide to go, please give me the money and I will go my way. They agreed on that. So, the young man worked for twenty years without holiday and without rest. After twenty years, he came to his boss and said:
Boss, I want my money, because I am returning to my home. The boss replied:
All right, after all, I made a deal with you and I will stick to it. However, before you go I want to offer you something new: I will give you all your money and send you away; or I will give you 3 pieces of advice and send you away. If I give you money, you lose the 3 pieces of advice. If I give you the 3 pieces of advice, you lose the money. Now, go to your room and think about your answer. He thought for two days. Then he went to the boss and told him:
I want the 3 pieces of advice. The boss stressed again, if I give you the 3 pieces of advice, I will not give you the money, and the man replied:
I want the 3 pieces of advice. The boss then told him:
No. 1: Never take shortcuts in your life, shorter and unknown paths can cost your life. No. 2: Never be too curious, for curiosity towards evil can be deadly. No. 3: Never make decisions in moments of anger or pain, because when you repent, it could be too late. After giving these 3 pieces of advice, the boss said to him:
Here, you have 3 loaves of bread, 2 are for you to eat during the journey and the last is for you to eat with your wife when you get home. So, the man went his way, after twenty years away from home and from his wife, whom he loved so much. After the first day of travel, he found a man who greeted him and asked:
Where are you going? He replied:
To a distant place which is about 20 days away if I continue walking. The man said to him:
Ol' boy, this path is too long! I know a shortcut that is very safe and you will arrive in 5 days only. The man began to follow the path suggested until he remembered the first piece of advice. Then, he returned and followed the long path. Days later he learned that the shortcut led to an ambush.
After a few more days of travel, he found an inn by the roadside, where he could rest. He paid for a room and after taking a bath he lay down to sleep. During the night he woke up as he heard a terrifying scream. He rose to his feet and went to the door to check what happened. As he was opening the door, he remembered the second piece of advice. Therefore he returned, lay down again and slept. At dawn, after breakfast, the owner of the lodging asked him if he had not heard the scream at night. He affirmed that he heard. Then, the host said:
Were you not curious to see what happened? And he replied:
No, I was not. Then the host said:
You are the first guest to leave this inn alive. My neighbour is completely crazy. He usually shouts at night to call someone’s attention. When some of the guests come out, he kills them and buries their bodies in the backyard. The man continued his long journey, eager to arrive soon.
After many days and nights walking, he was very tired, but he finally saw his house far away. It was night. He saw some light coming out of the window of his house and was able to see the silhouette of his wife. But he also saw that she was not alone. He came closer and saw there was a man with her. She softly caressed his hair. When he saw that scene, his heart was filled with hatred and bitterness. He decided to rush at and kill them both mercilessly. However, he took a deep breath and he remembered the third piece of advice. Then he stopped, reflected and decided to sleep outside that night. He slept in the midst of the bushes, determined to make a decision the next day. At dawn, he was calmer and thought:
I will not kill my wife and her lover. I am going back to my boss to ask him to take me back. But before I go, I want to tell my wife that I have always been faithful to her.
He went to the front door and knocked. When his wife opened the door and recognized him, she cried and embraced him warmly. He tried to push her away, but he
was not able. Then, with tears in his eyes he told her:
I was faithful to you but you betrayed me.
She was shocked, so she replied:
How did I betray you? I have never betrayed you. I waited patiently for you for twenty good years. Then he asked:
How about the man that you were caressing yesterday? And she said:
That man is your son. When you left, I discovered I was pregnant. Today he is twenty years old. Hearing that, the man asked her forgiveness. He met and hugged his son. Then he told them all the things he had experienced while away. Meanwhile, his wife prepared some coffee for them to eat together, the last bread given by his boss. After a prayer of thanksgiving, he broke the bread. When he looked at it, he found all his money inside. In fact, there was even more than the right payment for his twenty years of dedication and hard work.
Friends, our God is like this boss. When he asks us to make a sacrifice, he wants to give us more than what we give Him. He wants us to have His unique wisdom as well as the
material blessings.
Stay insp
Honey, I will leave the house: I will travel faraway, get a job and work hard in order to come back and give you the comfortable life that you deserve. I do not know how long I will stay away, I only ask one thing, please wait for me, and while I am away, you should be faithful to me, because I will be faithful to you. His wife agreed, so the young man left. He walked many days until he found a farmer who was in need of someone to help him. The young man offered his services. He was accepted. Therefore he discussed the terms with his boss:
Let me work for as long as I want and when I think I should go home, please relieve me of my duties. I do not want to receive my salary. I ask you to save it for me, until the day I leave. The day I decide to go, please give me the money and I will go my way. They agreed on that. So, the young man worked for twenty years without holiday and without rest. After twenty years, he came to his boss and said:
Boss, I want my money, because I am returning to my home. The boss replied:
All right, after all, I made a deal with you and I will stick to it. However, before you go I want to offer you something new: I will give you all your money and send you away; or I will give you 3 pieces of advice and send you away. If I give you money, you lose the 3 pieces of advice. If I give you the 3 pieces of advice, you lose the money. Now, go to your room and think about your answer. He thought for two days. Then he went to the boss and told him:
I want the 3 pieces of advice. The boss stressed again, if I give you the 3 pieces of advice, I will not give you the money, and the man replied:
I want the 3 pieces of advice. The boss then told him:
No. 1: Never take shortcuts in your life, shorter and unknown paths can cost your life. No. 2: Never be too curious, for curiosity towards evil can be deadly. No. 3: Never make decisions in moments of anger or pain, because when you repent, it could be too late. After giving these 3 pieces of advice, the boss said to him:
Here, you have 3 loaves of bread, 2 are for you to eat during the journey and the last is for you to eat with your wife when you get home. So, the man went his way, after twenty years away from home and from his wife, whom he loved so much. After the first day of travel, he found a man who greeted him and asked:
Where are you going? He replied:
To a distant place which is about 20 days away if I continue walking. The man said to him:
Ol' boy, this path is too long! I know a shortcut that is very safe and you will arrive in 5 days only. The man began to follow the path suggested until he remembered the first piece of advice. Then, he returned and followed the long path. Days later he learned that the shortcut led to an ambush.
After a few more days of travel, he found an inn by the roadside, where he could rest. He paid for a room and after taking a bath he lay down to sleep. During the night he woke up as he heard a terrifying scream. He rose to his feet and went to the door to check what happened. As he was opening the door, he remembered the second piece of advice. Therefore he returned, lay down again and slept. At dawn, after breakfast, the owner of the lodging asked him if he had not heard the scream at night. He affirmed that he heard. Then, the host said:
Were you not curious to see what happened? And he replied:
No, I was not. Then the host said:
You are the first guest to leave this inn alive. My neighbour is completely crazy. He usually shouts at night to call someone’s attention. When some of the guests come out, he kills them and buries their bodies in the backyard. The man continued his long journey, eager to arrive soon.
After many days and nights walking, he was very tired, but he finally saw his house far away. It was night. He saw some light coming out of the window of his house and was able to see the silhouette of his wife. But he also saw that she was not alone. He came closer and saw there was a man with her. She softly caressed his hair. When he saw that scene, his heart was filled with hatred and bitterness. He decided to rush at and kill them both mercilessly. However, he took a deep breath and he remembered the third piece of advice. Then he stopped, reflected and decided to sleep outside that night. He slept in the midst of the bushes, determined to make a decision the next day. At dawn, he was calmer and thought:
I will not kill my wife and her lover. I am going back to my boss to ask him to take me back. But before I go, I want to tell my wife that I have always been faithful to her.
He went to the front door and knocked. When his wife opened the door and recognized him, she cried and embraced him warmly. He tried to push her away, but he
was not able. Then, with tears in his eyes he told her:
I was faithful to you but you betrayed me.
She was shocked, so she replied:
How did I betray you? I have never betrayed you. I waited patiently for you for twenty good years. Then he asked:
How about the man that you were caressing yesterday? And she said:
That man is your son. When you left, I discovered I was pregnant. Today he is twenty years old. Hearing that, the man asked her forgiveness. He met and hugged his son. Then he told them all the things he had experienced while away. Meanwhile, his wife prepared some coffee for them to eat together, the last bread given by his boss. After a prayer of thanksgiving, he broke the bread. When he looked at it, he found all his money inside. In fact, there was even more than the right payment for his twenty years of dedication and hard work.
Friends, our God is like this boss. When he asks us to make a sacrifice, he wants to give us more than what we give Him. He wants us to have His unique wisdom as well as the
material blessings.
Stay insp
Tuesday 16 August 2016
CONTROLLING PAINS
Hello readers, we are still talking about scars and I am going to be discussing how to control pains. Yes, we have seen situations where people allow their pains to control them. Their pains decide who they are and how they relate with people.
Truth is, it's very easy to blame your situations on something or somebody. It just kind of feels good to put the blame on someone.i am not saying probably what you are going through is nobody's fault, I am only saying what does it change? Does it make less hurtful and more relieving? Putting the blame on somebody does not ease your pain, it changes nothing. Most people even blame themselves, cursing themselves and even contemplating the easiest and quickest way to quietly end their lives. All these happens, the pains lingers on when you allow it to control you. I am inspired to share this with you because I have learned to control my pains not the other way round. During the time of the fire explosion, my elder sister came to live with me. Because the injuries affected my arms badly, I could not wash, cook or do anything with my arms. She helps me with bathing, eating, anything and everything my hands are supposed to do for me. I hated myself, life felt meaningless and hopeless. I saw no way out of this burden. I was a liability to myself and family. One-day she told me she wouldn't be able to wash my clothes. I told her they were all dirty, she insisted that they will have to wait. Then I snapped at her saying "what are you doing here if you can't wash the clothes. If not for my situation do you think I will need you to wash or cook my meals? Just get out of here if you are not going to be useful".How does that sound? I know what you are thinking, it sounds bitter and ungrateful. But the thing is I wasn't thinking clearly. I allowed my pain to get the better part of me and hurt someone who is trying to stand by me. My sister was bitter. She abandoned her life to help me live. All I can do is treat her like a servant. It wasn't me speaking it was my pains... My pains influenced how I saw people and how I treated and judged them.she said some things to me in anger and I thought of words, strong words that hurt the most to lash at her. Few hours later I realized the damages done by the power of my pains... I went down on my knees in front of her and apologized. When you allow your pain to control your actions, you end up chasing away people who wants to see you laugh again. Exerting full control over your pain is one way to heal from the situation. I know it hurts real bad and it just feels unjust why you have to be the one suffering and stuck in that situation. While everyone around you seems happy and smiling and your face is constantly frowning due to that endless pains. I know and know just how good it can be just to make someone pay for what you are going through but stop... It will not change anything... It will only prolong your sufferings and your pains will wax stronger and stronger until it takes full control over you. Today, if you feel like you really need that power or strength to resist that pain, start by taking a deep breath, inhale and exhale three times, close your eyes and picture yourself in the best environment you want to be, all smiling, laughing and free from all pains... Opens your eyes, smile and say this out loud "IT IS WELL".
Truth is, it's very easy to blame your situations on something or somebody. It just kind of feels good to put the blame on someone.i am not saying probably what you are going through is nobody's fault, I am only saying what does it change? Does it make less hurtful and more relieving? Putting the blame on somebody does not ease your pain, it changes nothing. Most people even blame themselves, cursing themselves and even contemplating the easiest and quickest way to quietly end their lives. All these happens, the pains lingers on when you allow it to control you. I am inspired to share this with you because I have learned to control my pains not the other way round. During the time of the fire explosion, my elder sister came to live with me. Because the injuries affected my arms badly, I could not wash, cook or do anything with my arms. She helps me with bathing, eating, anything and everything my hands are supposed to do for me. I hated myself, life felt meaningless and hopeless. I saw no way out of this burden. I was a liability to myself and family. One-day she told me she wouldn't be able to wash my clothes. I told her they were all dirty, she insisted that they will have to wait. Then I snapped at her saying "what are you doing here if you can't wash the clothes. If not for my situation do you think I will need you to wash or cook my meals? Just get out of here if you are not going to be useful".How does that sound? I know what you are thinking, it sounds bitter and ungrateful. But the thing is I wasn't thinking clearly. I allowed my pain to get the better part of me and hurt someone who is trying to stand by me. My sister was bitter. She abandoned her life to help me live. All I can do is treat her like a servant. It wasn't me speaking it was my pains... My pains influenced how I saw people and how I treated and judged them.she said some things to me in anger and I thought of words, strong words that hurt the most to lash at her. Few hours later I realized the damages done by the power of my pains... I went down on my knees in front of her and apologized. When you allow your pain to control your actions, you end up chasing away people who wants to see you laugh again. Exerting full control over your pain is one way to heal from the situation. I know it hurts real bad and it just feels unjust why you have to be the one suffering and stuck in that situation. While everyone around you seems happy and smiling and your face is constantly frowning due to that endless pains. I know and know just how good it can be just to make someone pay for what you are going through but stop... It will not change anything... It will only prolong your sufferings and your pains will wax stronger and stronger until it takes full control over you. Today, if you feel like you really need that power or strength to resist that pain, start by taking a deep breath, inhale and exhale three times, close your eyes and picture yourself in the best environment you want to be, all smiling, laughing and free from all pains... Opens your eyes, smile and say this out loud "IT IS WELL".
Friday 12 August 2016
MY SCARS:UNPREDICTABLE TOMORROW
My scar story continues and I am still rising above my prevalent circumstances.Today I am going to share a little story with you.
Before the fire incident, while I was still in the university, I once met and liked a guy. His name starts with a letter D. I liked him because he was gentle and polite not to mention his maturity. He was in his car when we met, he gave me a lift to the market, on the way, we chatted about anything and everything. At the end, we realise we had so much in common.You know what people do when they meet someone they love spending time with, we decided to date. The first day I saw him walking not driving, I realised he was leaping. I closed my eyes to that challenge assuring myself that no one is perfect. I concentrated on his good side and appreciated him for who he is. My friends laughed at me, telling me something has gone wrong with my choice of men but I told them that the guy wasn't born this way. He had a fatal accident while he was travelling home from school. I was glad he was alive and that was enough for me because he made me so happy. I know you are wondering where I am going with this story but I just want to tell you that no one knows tomorrow. No one can predict their next minute. What you know is what you see and have right now. I was perfect then, the guy leaps and walk. My greatest joy right now in my scarred state is that I never looked down or rejected him. I appreciated him for him for who he was. It will surprise that the guy who people thought I was doing a big favour by going out with him actually ended the relationship. Votes, his ex was carrying his baby, he had to go be with her. I cried when he left but I was happy that I was there for him and didn't leave him because of his physical challenges. When I see people who reject me today because of my scars, I don't feel hurt because I know that it has nothing to do with karma, rather God is bringing me the best friends, that will see beyond my scars and appreciate how awesome I am and just fall helplessly in love with me. My readers, all I am saying is if you are OK today, perfect and have everything going well for you, don't ever look down on someone going through a hard time. If they need you and you feel you can be there, don't reject them because of their challenges.Nobody sees misfortune coming, nobody prays to be unfortunate. So never reject people in their time of need and pain because tomorrow is unpredictable. Thank you for reading.
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| After the fire accident |
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| Before the fire accident |
Before the fire incident, while I was still in the university, I once met and liked a guy. His name starts with a letter D. I liked him because he was gentle and polite not to mention his maturity. He was in his car when we met, he gave me a lift to the market, on the way, we chatted about anything and everything. At the end, we realise we had so much in common.You know what people do when they meet someone they love spending time with, we decided to date. The first day I saw him walking not driving, I realised he was leaping. I closed my eyes to that challenge assuring myself that no one is perfect. I concentrated on his good side and appreciated him for who he is. My friends laughed at me, telling me something has gone wrong with my choice of men but I told them that the guy wasn't born this way. He had a fatal accident while he was travelling home from school. I was glad he was alive and that was enough for me because he made me so happy. I know you are wondering where I am going with this story but I just want to tell you that no one knows tomorrow. No one can predict their next minute. What you know is what you see and have right now. I was perfect then, the guy leaps and walk. My greatest joy right now in my scarred state is that I never looked down or rejected him. I appreciated him for him for who he was. It will surprise that the guy who people thought I was doing a big favour by going out with him actually ended the relationship. Votes, his ex was carrying his baby, he had to go be with her. I cried when he left but I was happy that I was there for him and didn't leave him because of his physical challenges. When I see people who reject me today because of my scars, I don't feel hurt because I know that it has nothing to do with karma, rather God is bringing me the best friends, that will see beyond my scars and appreciate how awesome I am and just fall helplessly in love with me. My readers, all I am saying is if you are OK today, perfect and have everything going well for you, don't ever look down on someone going through a hard time. If they need you and you feel you can be there, don't reject them because of their challenges.Nobody sees misfortune coming, nobody prays to be unfortunate. So never reject people in their time of need and pain because tomorrow is unpredictable. Thank you for reading.
Tuesday 9 August 2016
LEARN ABOUT YOUR STAR SIGN BY SALLY PAINTER
Characteristics of star signs are influenced by the elements and qualities associated with each zodiac sign.Defining the Characteristics of Star SignsThere are 12 signs in the zodiac, and each is represented by a person, animal or object. You can begin to understand your lover's personality and traits by examining his or her zodiac symbol.
Aries: March 21 - April 19
Aries is represented by the ram and is a fire sign. Arieswas the Greek god of war and many of the mythological character's traits are reflected in this zodiac sign.
- Strong-willed and exacting in work
- High expectations of self and situations
- Ambitious risk-taker
- Passionate and often impatient
- Devoted and loyal to friends and family
- Caring lovers with intense sexual appetites
- Athletic, adventurous and bold
Taurus: April 20 -May 20
Taurus is represented by the bull and is an earth sign.
- Strong with great stamina for physical and mental tasks
- Can be stubborn and unwilling to give ground
- Loves finer things in life. Materialistic.
- Appreciates beauty
- Feelings buried deep
- May appear selfish at times, but are generous with possessions and money
Gemini: May 21 - June 20
Gemini is represented by twins and is an air sign.
- Versatile, adaptable and easily bored
- Quick-silver mind and wit
- Loves to chat and share knowledge
- Communicator of the zodiac
- Sociable and enjoys variety as well as change
- Relies on mental analysis more than gut feelings
Cancer: June 21 - July 22
Cancer is represented by the crab and is a water sign. It's easy to see that most Cancerians have a deep love for home.
- Family and friends are at the top of the list of most valuable possessions followed by home
- Deep appreciation for family history and exploring family trees
- Emotions are difficult to hide since Cancer lives by his gut feelings and instinct
- Craves a stable home life in order to feel secure, safe and comfortable
Leo: July 23 - August 22
This sign is represented by the lion and is a fire sign. Leo is bold, courageous and daring.
- Likes to be in the spotlight
- Drama is one of his best tools for getting what he wants
- Great judgment and makes a good actor
- Very generous and loving
- Good strong leaders
- Knows self-worth and exerts will
Virgo: August 23 - September 22
Represented by the virgin and is an earth sign. This sign has high expectations of himself and especially others in his quest for perfection on earth.
- Skilled and successful in career
- Keeps emotions reined
- Analytical and focused on task at hand
- Tend to be overly-critical in desire to find perfection
- Steady workers and attentive to details
Libra: September 23 - October 22
Libra is blind justice holding a set of scales. For Libra life is about learning to balance the demands from the outside with the desires and needs on the inside. Libra spends a lot of time wrestling to create harmony and balance between each aspect of himself. An air sign, Libra is more mental than physical.
- Justice and equality are mainstays
- Surrounds himself with beauty and art
- Music feeds his soul
- Sensuality is not confined to the bedroom
- Good social skills
- Voices opinions only when provoked or passionate about a cause
Scorpio: October 23 - November 21
This sign is represented by a scorpion and usually misunderstood because his words and actions can have the same kind of stinging effect. This water sign feels things very deeply.
- Enjoys big and bold lifestyle
- Entrepreneur with the ability to overcome massive obstacles
- Assesses situations before jumping in
- Enjoys a lively heated debate
- Make passionate often possessive lovers
Sagittarius: November 22 - December 21
This sign is represented by the mythological creature, the Centaur, half-man, half-horse. It's no wonder that the Sagittarian has a soft spot for animals. As a fire sign, he has deep passion that only needs to be stoked to flame.
- Philosopher and gatherer of information
- Bright sharp intellect and enjoys mental challenges
- High energy that keeps him constantly moving
- Like a cat with nine lives, Sagittarius is constantly reinventing himself
- Must be allowed to roam free and will always return home
- Exciting, appreciative lover who enjoys pleasing his mate
Capricorn: December 22 - January 19
Capricorn is represented by a goat and is another earth sign that needs a happy home in order to feel complete.
- Practical problem-solver and excellent organizer
- Plans life and each stage to create a blueprint he can follow
- Closed-mouth when it comes to sharing, so you'll need to prod him to open up
- Makes a great companion and life-long friend
Aquarius: January 20 - February 18
Aquarius is represented by the water bearer, but is an air sign. This often confuses people until you get to know him and you quickly see the element of air in all he does.
- Unorthodox, unconventional, often embraces a Bohemian lifestyle
- Eclectic collection of friends
- Humanitarian and will take up just causes
- Very sociable, intelligent and quick to make friends
- Enjoy art and a leisurely lifestyle
Pisces: February 19 - March 20
Pisces is symbolized by a fish. A water sign, Pisces has insight and knowledge that makes you realize he's an old soul.
- Unassuming and deeply emotional
- Selfless to a fault
- Unlike Leo, Pisces is content to remain in the shadows
- Illusion of naivety
- Devoted lover and friend
Discovering More About Star Signs
You can learn more about the characteristics of star signs when you explore the correlating elements of air, fire, water and earth.
Saturday 6 August 2016
WHY LADIES FROWN AT "THE FUTURE WILL BE BRIGHT KIND OF GUYS
hello my wonderful readers. Today I am going to be discussing something interesting with you. I am going to be telling you reasons why ladies frown at and shy away from the future will be bright category of men. I hear most guys say, no woman wants to suffer with them. Some also say man when nor get money Na monkey, the one when get money Na fine boy.
Guys you are not totally wrong. Most ladies do not want to stick around long enough when the chips are down. Some have said some reasons why they never want to soak garri with a man.
Here are some reasons itemised below:
Most guys are humble when there is no money
Some act very decent and committed to you when there is no money. When the money comes, they remember the shapy high class girl of their dreams and go after her. They support you soaking garri, telling you how much things will get better. How when the money comes, you will be walking on space. Endless promises but it hurts to eventually know that they have just be settling with you because you are the woman who stood by them when they are broke even when others rejected them. There are many reasons why ladies frown at this category of men. The e go better kind guys and whatever we call it... On my next post, I will give you more reasons. Goodbye for now
Guys you are not totally wrong. Most ladies do not want to stick around long enough when the chips are down. Some have said some reasons why they never want to soak garri with a man.
Here are some reasons itemised below:
Most guys are humble when there is no money
Some act very decent and committed to you when there is no money. When the money comes, they remember the shapy high class girl of their dreams and go after her. They support you soaking garri, telling you how much things will get better. How when the money comes, you will be walking on space. Endless promises but it hurts to eventually know that they have just be settling with you because you are the woman who stood by them when they are broke even when others rejected them. There are many reasons why ladies frown at this category of men. The e go better kind guys and whatever we call it... On my next post, I will give you more reasons. Goodbye for now
Monday 1 August 2016
ARE YOU REALLY READY?
Marriage is for men not for boys and for women not for the girls words of wisdom compiled by Pastor Joy Amenkhienan Zonal Director - Christ Embassy Port Harcourt Zone 3.
LADIES if you haven't LEARNED SUBMISSION, stay away from MARRIAGE. Marriage is not PARTNERSHIP, its AUTHORITY, you are under your Husband and subject to Him. The higher authority is Jesus. If HE is not SUBJECT to CHRIST, then its an ERROR! Start learning how to SUBMIT to your mum, dad, pastor, leaders and BOSS if you haven't being doing SO yet. GENTLEMEN, it doesn't make you become BOSSY. Oh GENT if YOU still THINK ME, MYSELF and I, then you ain't matured yet for MARRIAGE. Stop Proposing and engaging sisters for donkey years and telling them to wait for YOU? Huh? GENTLEMEN, MATURITY is for RESPONSIBILITY, don't go finding a woman when you ain't ready to be responsible. It's more than AGE and having a beard, or a good house, car or so much money in your bank account. HELLO MR, Your parents still feed you, give you pocket money ,PAY your SCHOOL FEES? HUH? You have no business COURTING or being in a RELATIONSHIP not to talk of MARRIAGE. An adult still being BREASTFED? That's an ERROR!!! FINDING someone to LOVE YOU is very EASY, but FINDING someone SUITABLE for YOU is the ASSIGNMENT. LOVE is not enough for you to MARRY ANYONE. WHAT'S YOUR DEFINITION OF LOVE? HE CALLS YOU EVERYDAY? Say what? Any good friend can do that. SHE COOKS GOOD and BRINGS YOU NICE MEALS? Even your mum can cook. HE TAKES YOU OUT ALWAYS and SHOPS FOR YOU? That's sweet, but even a good girl friend can do that for you. SHE'S CARING? Huh? Your sister cares, your mum does, that Lady at work cares! SHE'S BEAUTIFUL? Beauty is Vain, charm is deceit! If your reasons for marrying anyone is JUST BECAUSE YOU LOVE HIM or HER, those are LAME REASONS.....Its too cheap! Have you checked, if he or she tithes? How about partnering in the kingdom? Who is he listening to? Who is she subjected to aside you?, What's his or her relationship with others, family, friends or colleagues? You just can't be the only person he or she is passionate about or cares for? If you are, there is an error! We have too much love to dispense to only one person. LOVE is more than feelings, its a FORCE! Its SUPERNATURAL and everyone is capable of LOVE. Like I always say DON'T MARRY DREAMERS, MARRY VISIONAIRES!!! People Who make realistic and achievable goals and get them done in every little way. There would be a time when those FEELINGS won't feel like it, WHAT WOULD YOU DO? You need CONCRETE CONVINCTIONS to MARRY SOMEONE! That's why as a MAN you must have VISIONS, LAID DOWN already! Know who you are and your God-given purpose. LADY know who you are and where you are going, SO YOU DON'T GET CARRIED away by any man's vision. There must be a MEETING POINT in your VISIONS, you are PARTNERS, If you're not going where the other is going, LEG IT! GENT, YOUR WIFE is a HELPMEET, called to assist YOU. GENT! Now who told you because SHE PRAYS so WELL and SINGS so sweetly she's the ONE FOR YOU! Even the devil comes as an angel of LIGHT. ENJOY your feelings with caution, DON'T LET THEM CONTROL YOU. There's a CALLING for EVERYONE. BE CAREFUL WHO YOU MARRY! Find it before you think of saying I DO! AGE is not maturity! ( Pause and think). BE IN YOUR PLACE OF PURPOSE LADY - even if its a HOLE, HE WILL FIND YOU. Stop trying to FIND HIM. Lady protect your self-esteem. SET a STANDARD for yourself, UPHOLD BIBLE- based VIRTOUS VALUES and stick to them. Nevertheless, LOVE is IMPORTANT, SHOW MUCH LOVE. Love is like a Plant, it takes time to grow when you are watering it. EVERY RELATIONSHIP without COMMUNICATION dies no matter what kind it is. There must be constant sharing of thoughts. DON'T become INACCESSIBLE or deaf to your PARTNER, understand even their SIGN LANGUAGE. That's why you must pay attention to those you LOVE. Yes its a responsibility, STUDY them and get to know them. Without respect there is no love but remember RESPECT is earned; Guy don't go fighting for who to bow to YOU or call you LORD, its childish. When a woman LOVES you and you show her how important she is to you, she would KNEEL for YOU without you asking her to. If you can't TRUST your PARTNER, you can as well leave now before MARRIAGE. You won't always be there to MONITOR them, stop STALKING!!! LOVE is the BEST GIFT we can give to anyone, show much LOVE Ephesians 5:33 Amplified version; "and let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband [ that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates, and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly]. 1: You see the 1st synonym for reverence is to notice him. Most women don't notice their husbands. They think they are still in their parents house where they just walk and see their siblings sitting in the sitting room and just greet them and pass by! If your husband is alone in the parlor maybe watching tv go straight there, hold his hand, sit very close to him, maybe lean your head on his shoulder. Just do something romantic and watch with seriousness what he's watching If you don't like watching football and he likes it you better start learning how to watch football. Moreover when men have their women around them, it makes them feel proud, it makes them feel important and valued, it makes them more a man. Don't act as though your husband is an inanimate object, notice him! Don't wait until you have a need before coming to him. Men too love to be loved. Notice the nice shirt he wears, his shoe,and tell him.
LADIES if you haven't LEARNED SUBMISSION, stay away from MARRIAGE. Marriage is not PARTNERSHIP, its AUTHORITY, you are under your Husband and subject to Him. The higher authority is Jesus. If HE is not SUBJECT to CHRIST, then its an ERROR! Start learning how to SUBMIT to your mum, dad, pastor, leaders and BOSS if you haven't being doing SO yet. GENTLEMEN, it doesn't make you become BOSSY. Oh GENT if YOU still THINK ME, MYSELF and I, then you ain't matured yet for MARRIAGE. Stop Proposing and engaging sisters for donkey years and telling them to wait for YOU? Huh? GENTLEMEN, MATURITY is for RESPONSIBILITY, don't go finding a woman when you ain't ready to be responsible. It's more than AGE and having a beard, or a good house, car or so much money in your bank account. HELLO MR, Your parents still feed you, give you pocket money ,PAY your SCHOOL FEES? HUH? You have no business COURTING or being in a RELATIONSHIP not to talk of MARRIAGE. An adult still being BREASTFED? That's an ERROR!!! FINDING someone to LOVE YOU is very EASY, but FINDING someone SUITABLE for YOU is the ASSIGNMENT. LOVE is not enough for you to MARRY ANYONE. WHAT'S YOUR DEFINITION OF LOVE? HE CALLS YOU EVERYDAY? Say what? Any good friend can do that. SHE COOKS GOOD and BRINGS YOU NICE MEALS? Even your mum can cook. HE TAKES YOU OUT ALWAYS and SHOPS FOR YOU? That's sweet, but even a good girl friend can do that for you. SHE'S CARING? Huh? Your sister cares, your mum does, that Lady at work cares! SHE'S BEAUTIFUL? Beauty is Vain, charm is deceit! If your reasons for marrying anyone is JUST BECAUSE YOU LOVE HIM or HER, those are LAME REASONS.....Its too cheap! Have you checked, if he or she tithes? How about partnering in the kingdom? Who is he listening to? Who is she subjected to aside you?, What's his or her relationship with others, family, friends or colleagues? You just can't be the only person he or she is passionate about or cares for? If you are, there is an error! We have too much love to dispense to only one person. LOVE is more than feelings, its a FORCE! Its SUPERNATURAL and everyone is capable of LOVE. Like I always say DON'T MARRY DREAMERS, MARRY VISIONAIRES!!! People Who make realistic and achievable goals and get them done in every little way. There would be a time when those FEELINGS won't feel like it, WHAT WOULD YOU DO? You need CONCRETE CONVINCTIONS to MARRY SOMEONE! That's why as a MAN you must have VISIONS, LAID DOWN already! Know who you are and your God-given purpose. LADY know who you are and where you are going, SO YOU DON'T GET CARRIED away by any man's vision. There must be a MEETING POINT in your VISIONS, you are PARTNERS, If you're not going where the other is going, LEG IT! GENT, YOUR WIFE is a HELPMEET, called to assist YOU. GENT! Now who told you because SHE PRAYS so WELL and SINGS so sweetly she's the ONE FOR YOU! Even the devil comes as an angel of LIGHT. ENJOY your feelings with caution, DON'T LET THEM CONTROL YOU. There's a CALLING for EVERYONE. BE CAREFUL WHO YOU MARRY! Find it before you think of saying I DO! AGE is not maturity! ( Pause and think). BE IN YOUR PLACE OF PURPOSE LADY - even if its a HOLE, HE WILL FIND YOU. Stop trying to FIND HIM. Lady protect your self-esteem. SET a STANDARD for yourself, UPHOLD BIBLE- based VIRTOUS VALUES and stick to them. Nevertheless, LOVE is IMPORTANT, SHOW MUCH LOVE. Love is like a Plant, it takes time to grow when you are watering it. EVERY RELATIONSHIP without COMMUNICATION dies no matter what kind it is. There must be constant sharing of thoughts. DON'T become INACCESSIBLE or deaf to your PARTNER, understand even their SIGN LANGUAGE. That's why you must pay attention to those you LOVE. Yes its a responsibility, STUDY them and get to know them. Without respect there is no love but remember RESPECT is earned; Guy don't go fighting for who to bow to YOU or call you LORD, its childish. When a woman LOVES you and you show her how important she is to you, she would KNEEL for YOU without you asking her to. If you can't TRUST your PARTNER, you can as well leave now before MARRIAGE. You won't always be there to MONITOR them, stop STALKING!!! LOVE is the BEST GIFT we can give to anyone, show much LOVE Ephesians 5:33 Amplified version; "and let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband [ that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates, and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly]. 1: You see the 1st synonym for reverence is to notice him. Most women don't notice their husbands. They think they are still in their parents house where they just walk and see their siblings sitting in the sitting room and just greet them and pass by! If your husband is alone in the parlor maybe watching tv go straight there, hold his hand, sit very close to him, maybe lean your head on his shoulder. Just do something romantic and watch with seriousness what he's watching If you don't like watching football and he likes it you better start learning how to watch football. Moreover when men have their women around them, it makes them feel proud, it makes them feel important and valued, it makes them more a man. Don't act as though your husband is an inanimate object, notice him! Don't wait until you have a need before coming to him. Men too love to be loved. Notice the nice shirt he wears, his shoe,and tell him.
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