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UNMASKED

Hi readers, I remember posting an article with the title many faces of the mask. O said the face behind the mask is scary and dangerous, not until it is unmasked, will you know what lies hidden. Yea, have you ever felt like you know someone, like you could vouche for them, but in the long run. They turn out to be some body, totally unrecognizable. Yea, I have found myself countless times in that position. I almost vowed with my life that they are who they showed to me...to think I would have died for trusting the mask they cover. You do not know people, who they are and what they are capable of doing. Humans, are those who say something different with their lips and their hearts speaks something so entirely different. A nice smile, tears in the eyes, compassionate hug and a heart felt kiss might just be a mask worn for you.

Not until it is unmasked would you see the real emotion. This is the reason why a mouth that says "I love you", in few minutes time of ugliness says " I hate you". Then you see a smiling face extending a hug towards you and just

when you are not looking, the smiling face becomes monstrous and a knife is plunged through your heart. Do not trust the smiling face, do not trust the compassionate hugs....many people are wearing a mask. They wear a mask to put food on their table, they wear a mask to keep money coming into their bank accounts, they must have the mask on, to keep you by their side. With mask on, you are deceived, manipulated and trapped. Not until they are fully unmasked, would you know the person you think is the solution is actually the problem. Thanks for reading and trust no one because we are all wearing a mask....some say, we need a mask on to stay alive...to survive.....

BEING BURNED

Being burned is not a nice feeling. Its painful and a very ugly experience. I know some of you were not burned by the actual fire that burned me. Some of you were burned emotionally, others professionally. Being burned makes angry, vengeful and you see yourself blaming the world for your woes and misfortune. You conceive and set out on a mission to make the world test and pay for your pains. Being burned leaves scars...scars that take a long time to fade or may never fade. You are constantly reminded by that scar what it means to be burned.  You feel life is not worth living when you are burned. Life suddenly makes no sense, there is no white, all you see is black and blood. You feel there is no more laughter, all you see is frowns and the gazes of agony. Unknowingly, when you are burned, a new chapter is open to you, a new strength is discovered, a new drive is forced out of you.

 Being burned only means the end of one chapter of your life, and a beginning of a new one. Something good can still come out from being burned because it is the mark of a new phase of your life.
I have been burned, but I keep overcoming and rising above it....please to all who are burned rise above it and defeat your pains. Thanks for reading

HUSBAND SCARCITY

HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! Giving credit to MARYAM Habu Shinga. This article is worth a read

HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!
This may not be the best time for me to write on this because of misinterpretations, but I can no longer resist the push. "Husband Scarcity" has become one of the challenges faced by many young girls today. If you go to prayer houses, majority of the intentions are prayer for a life partner. And this calls for concern. Casting our minds back to the time of our mothers and grandmothers, was there really much of a "Husband Scarcity" problem? Or, maybe there were more men than women then, or there was an adequate corresponding numbers of both genders. I don't think so. Maybe then, the women had values and were prepared to build a home and not park into a built home. Then, once a young man comes of age and can at least feed himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a wife and the woman really appreciates him and helps him to build a future. What am I really trying to say? We created what we now see as "Husband Scarcity" for ourselves. Today, the reverse is the case. Ask an average girl to define her dream husband; you get things like "he has to be tall, handsome, fair, and rich, own a house at least, and be presentable" and then she adds "God fearing" in order not to sound so worldly. Then, check the number of girls around you and the number of men that meet that standard, and you will see the problem. You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer in my father's house and then go and start suffering with a man." What a wonderful dream! What if from the beginning, you have everything you want and there is no suffering, and later in the marriage, the table turns around, then comes suffering? Will you run away? No one prays for suffering, but it is good to start small and end big, than start big and end small. The problem is that the description majority of girls give of their ideal man is virtually the same. When 50 girls want the same kind of man and the man that fits what they want is just 1 man, and the man can only pick one. Then, what becomes of 49 others? They simply start lamenting of

"Husband Scarcity". Another irony of our time is that it is hard, due to the face of our economy to find a man who is of marriage age who possesses all those things these ladies want, legally (except those involved in Internet fraud); even the number of those in Internet fraud is not enough to match all those searching for already made husbands. If you look around, majority of the ladies of substance, of good value and virtue, who are ready to build a home with a man who has prospects, are married and not complaining of husband scarcity. The easiest way to find a husband now, is to change your view of who a husband is. A husband is that man God made and then saw that it may be hard for him to really actualize his purpose for making him, without a help mate and then made the woman and gave to him, and he felt complete and fulfilled MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. It is a mission of building the family of God here on earth. For those who see marriage as a way out of poverty, it is a way into bondage. Women are HOME BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY. Where he is today, may only be a route to where God has destined him to be tomorrow. Another truth is that YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS DESTINATION. Join in alleviating "husband scarcity". PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES. I am not saying that you should pick anyone that comes your way and talks of marriage, not all men are husband materials. What I am saying is that you should stop setting your standard on material acquisitions or physical appearances. Look beyond the physical. WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF. And that which he is made of is, most times, not seen with the physical eyes, only its effects can be seen. Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever is seen is temporal and that which is not seen is permanent.

This post is worth sharing, let it go as far as it can.

SLAP YOURSELF TO REALITY

SLAP YOUR SELF!
*Be* *Contented*
So, Tonto Dikeh invested all that money, time and energy to make us believe she had the best husband and life?
The luxury cars, jewelries, vacation, birthday parties and clothes.
Only to tell us they were all lies? That he never bought her anything, that she was just putting up a show to upgrade him?

I can't stop imagining how many people felt less of themselves watching the euphoria. How many marriages and relationships were wrecked because, some of us got mad that our partners were not doing enough. If you were one of them, take a minute and SLAP YOUR SELF!

Some girl you know, just had a flamboyant wedding and while she is feeling miserable that it was all her money, with little or no support from her husband, you're also feeling miserable because your wedding was nothing compared to hers, despite your husband's total support? SLAP YOUR SELF!

Someone is living in a bigger house than yours and while they can't sleep at night because EFCC or the bank might just show up, park them out and grab their collateral, you too can't sleep at night because you feel they are better off than you? SLAP YOUR SELF!

Your friends have their kids in the most expensive schools and while they are dying of hypertensive heart disease over school fees, you're having same health challenge because you can't take your mind off the fact that, you can't afford that school for your kids? SLAP YOUR SELF!

Your friends sleep around, loan and steal money from their offices, to fund the annual vacation and while they are restless the entire vacation, because a huge debt or query awaits them, you're also restless when you see their vacation pics on social media? SLAP YOUR SELF!

All your friends are married or in a relationship and while they have lost their self value because they settled for less than they deserved, you've lost same too because, you feel they're more deserving? SLAP YOUR SELF!

The slay queen or king on your timeline won't stop posting pictures of their designers clothes, hair, shoes, bags and jewelries and while they have slept with half the men and women in town, running and hiding from debtors, you're running and hiding too because, you feel you're not presentable? SLAP YOUR SELF!

Things do not always appear the way they are. Never loose a wink of sleep on what you see on social media.
You'll never know the length people go to paint a happy and successful picture.
Quit allowing yourself suffer their predicament by buying into the lies. And even if they were true, focus on your life. Have a dream and work towards it. Everything you need will come to you in time.
Everyone's timing is not the same. Slow and steady wins the race. If you rush in, you'll be rushed out!

N/B; Most of the very rich, happy and successful people like, Bill Gates, Mark Zuck, Oprah Winfrey, Dangote don't flaunt it on social media because they know who they are, and don't seek your validation.

So tell me, how many times did you SLAP YOUR SELF?
#becontented

KIDNAPPING- #BEWISE

Kidnapping cases in Nigeria has now reached an alarming  rate and the security agencies seems to be helpless. The recent case involved the former Director, DSS, Mike Ejiofor who was kidnapped along Okene –Obajana junction in Kogi State together with his driver,  ransom was paid after spending four days in their camp without food. According to him ,these kidnappers are Fulani gunmen with sophisticated weapons. They target mainly jeeps ,because according to  him ,they believe that once you are driving a jeep, you must be a wealthy person.
He also stated  that the kidnappers charge you base on the information they have on you through your ipad or cell phone.
In the light of this trend, staff are advised to:
•Keep a low profile and avoid ostentatious lifestyle
•Always delete your financial transactions in your ipad or handsets
•While travelling, take only less valuables  items with you.
•Avoid late travelling, plan your trip on time.
•Avoid sitting at the back of a vehicle because ,it gives impression that you are the owner of the vehicle.
•Do not accept nor offer lift to strangers.
•While travelling ,avoid expensive clothing and jewelries, dress moderately.
•information about financial transactions and travels should be handled with the highest level of confidentiality.
•Fly if you can to avoid road travelling .
•While walking or driving through hot-spots, be extra-vigilant.

HOW TO COPE AFTER BEING KIDNAPPED
•Remain calm
•Don’t try to escape
•Remember to cooperate and empathize with your captors.
•Your abductors may ask for contact person, do not mention your company’s name  unless detected, mention your Mother or close friend’s name for negotiation to your release.
•Follow their instructions to avoid being bullied or killed.
•Let your negotiator be friendly with your abductors to avoid being beaten or killed.
•Do not attempt to look at your abductors face.
The most high God shall always be our security, day & night, amen!
This information should be shared liberally.

A SEX DRIVEN GENERATION

Dear readers, I didn't want to write about this, but it is greatly affecting me that i have to speak up. I joined a social site where I get to meet lots of guys. When I say lots of you them, I mean different shades and different size. One peculiar thing I noticed about them is that they are all sex driven. They say hi to you because they have sex in mind...don't ask me how they can be sex driven when they have not seen me because, sex is the only reason they intend to see me or those of them who knows they just need you to have fun via the internet by either cam sex or sex chat. What I am asking is where did the real thing go? The days where people just talk and feel like it was the best moment of their life. Now you hear a guy say I love you only when he is in the mood for sex. In those days they tell me go to the church to look for a guy that will be OK to wait for sex after marriage, but the church boy is worst. He uses the bible to disguise like a decent guy but tells you he will not risk the problem of incompatibility in marriage... He must test before marriage. Where did the fear of God for the scripture marriage is bed undefiled? The ingredients of trust, love, hadwork that make up a good relationship is kicked to the curb and sex takes the centre stage. Even a woman's submissiveness is judged from the viewpoint of sex. Today he is all sweet and romantic with you, when he hears he is not going to be getting it from you, he becomes from sweet to snubbish and bitter. In a sex driven generation like ours, people cannot tell the difference between being in love or being in lust. In a time like this, I am congratulating those who found something real, something that is solid and is not standing on the base of sex alone. Sex is good in a relationship but it is only 10percent good. Trust, hardwork, love make up the other 90 percent in a relationship. What our sex driven generation does not know is that it takes more than sex for a relationship to be neaningful and solid. I wish I was back to the days of my parents when love is pure, when virginity is not seen as stupidity or a lacknof opportunity rather, a thing of pride and respect. In this sex driven generation that I have found myself, I can only hope that there is someone out there who is not only sexually driven that can still listen and accept the voice of  reason. Thanks for reading.

THE FIRE BURNS ALL

Dear readers,  today I write you because I have come to the realisation that everyone goes through pains. What touches you is different from what touches another. Just because you are the only one telling your story,  does not mean they do not have a story to tell. Sometimes they smile and silently deal with their problems. The fire burns all... In my case,  the literally burned me,  but in other cases,  the fire did not literally burn them but the pains they go through and try to heal from,  the scars sustained is synonymous with that caused by the actual fire burn. I met a friend from some years back,  and while I show her my scars,  talked about the pains I have been through and how much I have changed.  She looked at me and smiled.

While I was waiting for the usual consolation, she started telling me how she lost her first child during delivery... It was a still birth. It was painful for her,  after carrying the pregnancy for nine good months,  bonding with her baby when it was in the womb, but the baby did not go home with her... I forgot about my scars for that moment,  and began to console her. At that moment I realised that she too has been burn by a different kind of fire and is healing from the scars caused by that loss. When you see people with flawless skin,  impeccable taste, attractive smiles, you feel like they are better off,  not until you go very close to them,  will you have a proper conversation, then you will hear about their pains, how they rose from it,  then you will realise the fire burns all. I don't know the fire that has burned you,  I can't tell the degree of the burns and the appearance of the scar it left on you,  what I can tell you is stop feeling sorry for yourself and stop wishing you had another person's life. Just because their problems or scars isn't visible does not mean they are without problems. Concentrate on rising from your pains, because wishing to be the next man standing next to you might be worst than being you because the fire burns all..... Thanks for reading.

FOR LOVE OR HELP

HI readers,  it's a beautiful morning and I am more than inspired to share another experience with you as I rise above my scars. Today I am asking those have promised to be by my side if they are in for love OR for help. Not long ago, I met this guy who claims "he likes me the way I am." I went as far as revealing my ugly scars to him and he said,  "if I was married to you before the fire incident,  will I abandoned you?"  that word gave me hope and I began to see the possibility of acceptance. He calls,  texts and really gave me the impression that he was for real. But his questions were always one sided.  He always ask about my job and salary,  more than he ever asked about my treatment. I became suspicious and alert.  Then in the name of being open and honest with me because we are soon going to be one in his exact words, he began to tell me about his financial problems, how broke he is and requesting help from me. I felt sad... I needed help than he could ever need,  but he only saw his needs. He demanded for money,  and I continuously Denied me... I could no longer hope things will change because things became worst by the day. Then I realized he was with me for help and not for love. He thought no one will accept me, so I have to be grateful he came along and do anything, give him anything to make him stay by my side. Iwhat he never knows is,  I don't feel so hopeless... I don't care if anyone accepts me,  all I care about is accepting myself and being accepted by God. Dear readers I became wary and overly sensitive of men who demand help from me after seeing my situation. It made me question if they are coming to me for love OR for help? Thanks for reading.

DREAMS THAT NEVER CAME THROUGH.

Hi readers, today i am going to be sharing with you some of my experiences that turned out to be the dreams that never came through. i know some people think dreaming is  a sign of laziness, others see  it as a crime and some others see it as a disease and an act of fooling oneself chilling in the fantasy world, instead of stepping out to reality. but who cares what people thinks about dreams....if you are not dreaming, i don't know what to say to you. i dream a lot....i am not only referring to the things you do not have control of, when you go to bed, i am talking about the moments i allow my imagination to take me to another realm and fully surrender myself to my fantasies. dreams are free, we do not pay for them....back to what i am saying, i had this experience that only turned out to be one of those dreams that did not come through. i met this guy, he was good looking, smart, intelligent and a perfect gentleman.

He was everything any  woman can wish for in her widest imagination. he made me happy for the short time we spent. i find myself looking up to each new day with the greatest and most beautiful expectations. he had plans...great plans for me, he seemed too good to be true...but i was happy, i enjoyed every moment of the sweet feeling while it lasted not minding when the feeling finally passes. every now and then i never stopped to thank him for giving me this great opportunity to dream...he kept on assuring me, that it is not a dream...but you know what they say, reality is stronger than the illusion. like how you wake up from that  dream that you were having the best meal of your life and face your reality of hunger and emptiness, i also woke up to reality. this guy right now feels like he only existed in my fantasy world. even when i play and replay the phone conversations to remind myself that he was real, that i did not imagine it....its gone too soon....he gone and faded like the memory of the dream with the sumptuous meal. he was a dream that never came through....but still hoping...didn't they say when there is life, there is hope? still hoping my lovely readers.....i can say he is a dream that has not come through....just keep the hope alive....that dream can come through....thanks for reading