A MAN'S SILENCE IS SPEECH

I have often seen my fellow ladies cry about how their men never told them he was not interested in them anymore. I see them taken unawares,  countless mind games used on them and still they keep waiting,  saying " he will say it,  if he doesn't want me anymore". You want something serious as a woman,  he just wants to have fun,  hang out and move on. When he declines your invitation to visit your family,  you say he didn't tell you he is not serious.
I am saying men are talking even when they are silent. Ladies are always driven by emotions and thoughts of what they want that they don't listen to the silence of their men. In a man's silence thousand words are spoken. Ladies just need to take some time out from their busy emotions and really listen without cooking up excuses to what men silence are saying. With men, silence is not always an affirmation. If he is not saying he wants something, he probably wants nothing. But i see ladies cook up excuses even when the handwriting is boldly written on the wall. Ladies say "he is probably shy,  i just need to give him sometime,  he is probably going through problems that he can't commit to a serious relationship, or maybe he is looking for the right time to say it." In his silence thousand words have been spoken. In his silent treatment the fact that he is not just into you have been communicated. In his silence,  the golden conversation you needed to have with him concerning your future,  you just had it. A man is talking even when silent but the women aren't listening.
Ladies love to be told what they want to hear,  even when it is all lies. We just love to believe the lies and damn the truth. Fighting for the uncertainty and ignoring the certainty. Sometimes that conversation  of your life you need to have is already been given to you through his silence. How long do you intend to wait,  ignoring the truth with the excuse of "he has to say it to my face." He has said it with his silence but you just don't want to believe it.
If ladies can listen to guys silence things will end more civilly,  and less ugly.
Listen to a man's silence,  sometimes in a guy's  moment of  silence thousand words have been spoken.
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WALKING ON A THIN ROPE

The new year has come. We have made new resolutions and are determined to defy all odds and keep them. With determination not fail ourselves and those that look up to us we start the year. But like humans walking on a thin rope our steps continue to waver. Trying to find a balance with nothing to hold on to for support,  we struggle with just the determination of our minds to stay on track. Soon we see ourselves falling off the rope and landing flat on our backs. We feel like we have failed ourselves and those around us. We beat ourselves not dealing with failure with pity,  unknowingly to us,  sometimes all we need to go a hundred times forward is to take one step backward. Taking a step back should not be seen as failure rather a time to stop going too fast ahead,  pause and observe what lies in front  of you. It is a time to re-examine what caused the fall and develop a counter measure to prevent future falls. Our strength is within us...as long as we do not give up on ourselves,  God will never give up on us. Never forget to ask him for strength as we are all walking on the thin rope of life...prone to waver or fall off.
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A GOLDEN MORNING

I had a dream last night,  and in that dream I saw a very beautiful morning. The type with the perfect colour and peace.  The type I used to appreciate waking up to everyday before life became too busy. I woke up from that dream and even found a more lovelier morning... I call it the golden morning because the sun shining through the morning was the finest gold I have never seen. I forgot my wants for the day and I appreciated the beauty of the morning. Today is a new day, the morning awakens a new dawn... The beauty of the morning he's the power to make our pains fade away,  but like the blind that cannot see the beauty of the day,  we couldn't see or appreciate a golden morning. We are therefore categorised as the blinds as we are so preoccupied with the carried over troubles of yesterday, pains of last week,  that we do not see the power of the golden morning and it's peaceful effect on us... The blinds wish they can see the beautiful day,  they CAn only feel it but not see it... But we have eyes, but just cannot see and appreciate a beautiful and golden morning. Leaving the hospital, gradual healing from my scars,  I realise that being well,  complete and healthy is a gift. For everyday you see the dawning of a new day with a sound mind and in good health,  never forget to appreciate the beauty of the morning because it is a special gift, painfully, not everyone enjoys it gets to partake in this gift because some slept,  and couldn't wake up.  I congratulate you if you are among the lucky ones that partake in this golden morning. Wishing you all my readers a beautiful day. Thank you.

FEELING BEAUTIFUL IN SCARS

They say beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. This is why I cannot understand how people still manage to call themselves ugly. If you love yourself(beholder) you will only see your beauty. You recall I suffered from a domestic gas explosion that left me with ugly scars. I really wish the scars could disappear. I want to just wake up one morning,  look in the mirror and find them gone but they say everything takes time. 

But whenever I hold the camera to my face for a selfie, I realize something new, a powerful emotion, the raw feeling of self love. It's me... I am madly in love with myself despite the ugly scars. I can't stop taking pictures of myself because I am  a beauty. I find myself looking pretty and the scars just don't matter anymore. The scars in defined areas of my body just makes me distinguishable and unique. I feel this sense of appreciation for myself despite the scars... I still see beauty and care that was put in creating me despite the scars. 

Dear readers,  I am saying the power of imagery cannot be understated.  What you see,  decides how you feel. If you see your beauty,  your awesomeness despite your ugly scars,  then you will walk shoulder high feeling beautiful and gorgeous. The scars will not decide how you relate with yourself and the rest of the world. I see beauty whenever I look at myself.... That makes me beautiful.... What do you see about yourself today?  How do you feel?  I encourage you to see your beauty despite that ugly situation in your life... Feel beautiful despite your scars. Thank you for reading. 

 

IF TODAY WAS YOUR LAST DAY

what if today was your last day? This is the question I asked myself today. A question that reminded me that everyday should be seen as a gift not a right. Everyday is special, today is not yesterday and tomorrow can never be today. Everyday comes with something beautiful, priceless and special. What if today was your last day?  Will you spend it thinking of failed relationships? Will you spend it blaming yourself for your failures or will you look at past pictures and relish old memories?Will you listen to as much music as you can,  eat the best food, withdraw your savings and visit the best places you dreamt of?  Will you donate your last dime to the needy? Will you heal broken hearts, mend fences and forgive those who hurt you. Of today  was your last day,  what will you do? How will you live if today was your last day? Everyday is a a special gift,  cherish it and give all in for each day as it comes,  living like today is your last and tomorrow might be too late. Do not spend time worrying and mourning those things that time has the power to erase. Live for each day like there is no tommorow. Today is what you see right now,  what you have right now, please make the best of it.... And you can only if you answer the question "what if today is my last day?"
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SCARS HAPPEN WITH A SIGN

yes, scars don't  just happen. There is always a sign that accompanies that gruesome episode that is about to change your life forever.  The day of the gas explosion, I was sad and happy all through.  I did anything and everything I know trying to uplift  my mood.  For reasons I cannot tell I was worried.  I looked my best that very day. Soon,  I saw a little girl with burns on her neck. I stood for some minutes staring at her,  wondering about the magnitude of pain she must have been through. Unknowingly to me,  that I was going to suffer from same fate,  in few hours time. The fire happened and it was serious. The endless nightmares before the incident,  my sour mood that day before the accident  and the little girl with the burns on her neck was a sign.  A sign of painful and devastating times to come. Today I am saying if you feel moody,  sad and worried for no concrete reason,  do not take it for granted, just go on your knees and pray. Pray for God's protection in your next moments.  That unforeseen evil hour, pray for the salvation of your soul.  The signs comes but we do not understand,  but when we pray,  we will definitely survive the evil hour.  Thanks for reading.

MY SCARS AND THE WORLD

You recall that i sustained scars from a domestic gas explosion. Lots of people who visited me at the hospital never thought i could make. But i did...I survived and keep thriving. Dealing with my scars, i realised that not everyone who says sorry, actually pities me. Some of them know how desperate you are to get rid of that ugly scars hence come up with strategies in the name of treatment to cheat you off your money. Yea, i experienced lots of people suddenly having something to sell themselves. A man asked my father how i was doing after the incident, my father said i was recuperating. Then he said"she has a job but is dealing with fire accident,My sons do not have a job but there are not recovering from fire. They are very ok". That is the people that uses your circumstances to console themselves. Also some friends came to the hospital to see me, after seeing how monstrous i looked at the early stage of the incident, they said "you are not married and now you look like this, we that are ok and good looking finds it difficult to get married". They are simply telling me that i have no hope.
The last but not the least set of persons are those who wants you to blame it all on the scars. A friend of mine said "Ijeoma you would have being married if not for the accident". She wanted me to blame my singlehood on my scars. Entertaining such feeling can only make you see rejection where there is none. You suddenly see yourself wallowing in the depth of depressio  and frustration. You feel like a loser, unable to see anyrhing good about yourself. You fail, you blame it on the scars, people who ordinarily are meant to come and go, when they walk away, you see yourself blaming it on the scars.
What i am saying is, majority of world people loves to see you in pain. They ignore you when everything is fine and pretends to be your friend when everything is bad. Then they use your situation to console themselves, rubbing it on you, that their lives are so much better than yours. If only you will not concentrate on what the world says about your challenges, rather you find strength in your weaknesses by facing your worst fears and overcoming it. Thank you for reading.

WHEN THE THUNDER RUMBLES

The human race have become very desperate and cruel. People do all sorts of things to be feared and powerful. They make plans and strategise how to overtake and undertake. Ordinary human beings playing God by means of deciding the fate of their fellow humans. They believe no one can challenge them. They call themselves mighty, great and fearless. These are same humans that goes to bed, while asleep they do not know where they are. When they fall asleep they can't tell, When they wake up, they still don't know how they got up. They sleep like they are dead and do not know how they manage to wake up. These same humans brag and boast about their tomorrow. Making endless plans for even five years to come, not knowing if they will sleep and wake up the next day. They live like they own their lives.
When the thunder rumbles, the earth shakes to its depth, unconsciously, the human race stares upward, to the sky and the heavens and they are minded that there is someone mightier than the mighty, greater than the great. The almighty, the owner of the heavens and the earth...The owner of the entire human race....God almighty. When the thunder rumbles everyone is silent, still and realises that there is God. Everything is abandoned by the humans and there is fear and awe at the sound of the rumbling thunder. When thunder rumbles, the human race should never forget that there is God.

DON'T ALWAYS TRUST WHAT YOU SEE

there is more to what catches the eyes. I guess you have heard that before. Don't be so hard on yourself when you discovered you have been misled,  deceived OR fooled.  Can't blame you,  your are human after all and tends to draw conclusions and effect decisions from what you see.  What you see is not always the complete true.  The display of Love,  of anger,  of emotions,  of loyalty,  of support can just be an act for your eyes only. I am not saying your eyes deceive you everyday,  I am only saying you should leave a room of doubt in your heart,  no matter how the eyes try to convince you. I have seen people give me that smile like they could take a bullet for me,  later I see same people pull the trigger and release the bullet in me. Lip service is dangerous,  psycophancy my worst enemy. I let my heart will me to trust or doubt not base on what my eyes sees it the lip says but base on the peace I feel inwardly when I decide to do what I have to do.... There is more to every story that is played before your eyes.... As humans you cannot know what is left out or what is deliberately included just for your eyes.... After all we are not omniscience, omnipresent, only God Almighty has the title. The eyes only communicate what it sees but does not tell your heart what to believe. Today I am saying. DON'T ALWAYS TRUST WHAT YOU SEE!!!!

PSYCHOLOGY OF POSITIVE THINKING

*PSYCHOLOGY OF POSITIVE THINKING:  TIPS FOR FULFILLED LIFE*

*1. Don't complicate life. We won't be here forever. Once this day is over, it's gone forever. Your time is too valuable to waste on nonsense.*

*2. No matter what knocks you down in life, get up and keep going. NEVER GIVE UP. Great blessings come as a result of great perseverance.*

*3. Talking about our problems is our greatest addiction. Break the habit. Talk about your joys.*

*4. Good things come to those who believe, better things come to those who are patient, and the best things come to those who don't give up.*

*5. Do not pray for an easy life; pray for the strength to endure a difficult one.*

*6. Disappointments were not meant to destroy you. They were meant to strengthen you and give you fortitude to accomplish your God-given destiny.*

*7. We tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of getting something we don't have, but by appreciating what we do have.*

*8. Your child will follow your example, not your advice.*

*9. One day, you'll be just a memory for some people. Do your best to be a good one.*

*10. Associate yourself with people of good quality. For it is better to be alone than in bad company.*

*11.  Don't fear change. You may lose something good, but you may also gain something great.*

*12.  When you love what you have, you have everything you need.*

*13. The greatest act of faith some days is to simply get up and face another day.*

*14. Never let the things you want make you forget the things you have - GRATITUDE.*

*15. Commitment means staying loyal to what you said you were going to do, long after the mood you said it has left you.*

*16. When you choose to forgive those who have hurt you, you take away their power.*

*17. Patience is not the ability to wait, but how you act while you are waiting.*

*18. Isn't it ironic:*
*- We ignore those who adore us, but adore the ones that ignore us*
*- We love those who hurt us, but hurt the ones that love us.*

*19. Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together. Every story has an end, but in life every end is just a new beginning.*

*20. You were born to win. Although to be a winner, you must plan to win, prepare to win, and expect to win.*

*21. Every day is a NEW beginning, take a deep breath and START AGAIN.*

*22. Know that you are loved. You are fearfully and wonderfully made. You are beautiful. You have purpose. You are a masterpiece.*

*23. Don't compare your progress with that of others. We all need our own time to travel our own distance.*

*24. Surround yourself only with people who are going to lift you higher.*

*25. Bad things happen everyday to everyone. The difference is in how people deal with it.*

*26. When you make a commitment, you build hope. When you keep it, you build trust.*

*27. Two things define you: Your PATIENCE when you have NOTHING, and your ATTITUDE when you have EVERYTHING.*

*28. Being honest may not get you a lot of FRIENDS but it will always get you the RIGHT ONES.*

*29. Working on yourself is the hardest part of life. Keep growing up, no matter where you are.*

*30. Be selective in your battles. Sometimes peace is better than being right.*

*31. Keep people in your life who truly love you, motivate you and make you happy. If you know people who do none of these things, let them go.*

*32. Be happy not because everything is good, but because you can see the good side of everything.*

 *33. OPTIMISM*
*NO ➔ Shortcuts*
*NO ➔ Quick fixes*
*NO ➔ Blaming others*
*NO ➔ I'll do tomorrows*
*NO ➔ EXCUSES!!*

*34. Surround yourself with positive people who will support you when it rains, not just when it shines.*

*35. Being defeated is often a temporary condition; giving up is what makes it permanent.*

Enjoy God's grace on this journey we call LIFE.