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Thursday 26 January 2017
FOR LOVE OR HELP
HI readers, it's a beautiful morning and I am more than inspired to share another experience with you as I rise above my scars. Today I am asking those have promised to be by my side if they are in for love OR for help. Not long ago, I met this guy who claims "he likes me the way I am." I went as far as revealing my ugly scars to him and he said, "if I was married to you before the fire incident, will I abandoned you?" that word gave me hope and I began to see the possibility of acceptance. He calls, texts and really gave me the impression that he was for real. But his questions were always one sided. He always ask about my job and salary, more than he ever asked about my treatment. I became suspicious and alert. Then in the name of being open and honest with me because we are soon going to be one in his exact words, he began to tell me about his financial problems, how broke he is and requesting help from me. I felt sad... I needed help than he could ever need, but he only saw his needs. He demanded for money, and I continuously Denied me... I could no longer hope things will change because things became worst by the day. Then I realized he was with me for help and not for love. He thought no one will accept me, so I have to be grateful he came along and do anything, give him anything to make him stay by my side. Iwhat he never knows is, I don't feel so hopeless... I don't care if anyone accepts me, all I care about is accepting myself and being accepted by God. Dear readers I became wary and overly sensitive of men who demand help from me after seeing my situation. It made me question if they are coming to me for love OR for help? Thanks for reading.
Monday 23 January 2017
DREAMS THAT NEVER CAME THROUGH.
Hi readers, today i am going to be sharing with you some of my experiences that turned out to be the dreams that never came through. i know some people think dreaming is a sign of laziness, others see it as a crime and some others see it as a disease and an act of fooling oneself chilling in the fantasy world, instead of stepping out to reality. but who cares what people thinks about dreams....if you are not dreaming, i don't know what to say to you. i dream a lot....i am not only referring to the things you do not have control of, when you go to bed, i am talking about the moments i allow my imagination to take me to another realm and fully surrender myself to my fantasies. dreams are free, we do not pay for them....back to what i am saying, i had this experience that only turned out to be one of those dreams that did not come through. i met this guy, he was good looking, smart, intelligent and a perfect gentleman.
He was everything any woman can wish for in her widest imagination. he made me happy for the short time we spent. i find myself looking up to each new day with the greatest and most beautiful expectations. he had plans...great plans for me, he seemed too good to be true...but i was happy, i enjoyed every moment of the sweet feeling while it lasted not minding when the feeling finally passes. every now and then i never stopped to thank him for giving me this great opportunity to dream...he kept on assuring me, that it is not a dream...but you know what they say, reality is stronger than the illusion. like how you wake up from that dream that you were having the best meal of your life and face your reality of hunger and emptiness, i also woke up to reality. this guy right now feels like he only existed in my fantasy world. even when i play and replay the phone conversations to remind myself that he was real, that i did not imagine it....its gone too soon....he gone and faded like the memory of the dream with the sumptuous meal. he was a dream that never came through....but still hoping...didn't they say when there is life, there is hope? still hoping my lovely readers.....i can say he is a dream that has not come through....just keep the hope alive....that dream can come through....thanks for reading
He was everything any woman can wish for in her widest imagination. he made me happy for the short time we spent. i find myself looking up to each new day with the greatest and most beautiful expectations. he had plans...great plans for me, he seemed too good to be true...but i was happy, i enjoyed every moment of the sweet feeling while it lasted not minding when the feeling finally passes. every now and then i never stopped to thank him for giving me this great opportunity to dream...he kept on assuring me, that it is not a dream...but you know what they say, reality is stronger than the illusion. like how you wake up from that dream that you were having the best meal of your life and face your reality of hunger and emptiness, i also woke up to reality. this guy right now feels like he only existed in my fantasy world. even when i play and replay the phone conversations to remind myself that he was real, that i did not imagine it....its gone too soon....he gone and faded like the memory of the dream with the sumptuous meal. he was a dream that never came through....but still hoping...didn't they say when there is life, there is hope? still hoping my lovely readers.....i can say he is a dream that has not come through....just keep the hope alive....that dream can come through....thanks for reading
Friday 13 January 2017
MY SCAR STORY : ACCEPTING ME
It is undeniable that we know what it is to be scarred. Some of us are presently living with scars. Some scars are visible, others invisible while we heal from these scars we all wish we can be accepted by people we love. We want to be cherished and treasured.
Sometimes when these feelings we give are not reciprocated, we blame the rejection on the scars....
It's funny though but sometimes I remember the days I lived without scars, I somehow forgot that I was rejected by some people. Despite my perfections, not everyone accepted or preferred me. Then I see myself blaming it on the unseen reason that I am not just gorgeous enough, or smart enough or good enough. But right now it is so much easy to blame our rejections on the scars... If not for the scars, I would have probably been the most beautiful, the most accepted, the most preferred... That is what we tell ourselves. Truth is since I live with and rise above my scars, I have come to realize that for me to expect people to appreciate and accept me...
The appreciation and acceptance has to start with me... How can I expect someone else to appreciate me, to admire me, to accept me when I can't even accept myself? I want someone to hold my hands, look into my eyes and tell me how gorgeous I am despite my scars yet I can't stand myself, I can't even look myself in the mirror. What I am saying dear readers is, acceptance starts with you... Most people do not see your problems, rather they see how you handle and relate with your problems. I am scared and run away from people who exude negative energy, so how can my negative view and disposition towards my scars attract a positive person. How do you expect someone to accept you, when you can't accept who you are.... I have accepted who I am... And all I see when I look at the mirror is what a survivor I am. . . What I see is how gorgeous I am despite my scars... How lucky anyone who will have me will be despite my scars... What do you see about yourself.... Have you accepted yourself despite the ugly scars? Thanks for reading.
The appreciation and acceptance has to start with me... How can I expect someone else to appreciate me, to admire me, to accept me when I can't even accept myself? I want someone to hold my hands, look into my eyes and tell me how gorgeous I am despite my scars yet I can't stand myself, I can't even look myself in the mirror. What I am saying dear readers is, acceptance starts with you... Most people do not see your problems, rather they see how you handle and relate with your problems. I am scared and run away from people who exude negative energy, so how can my negative view and disposition towards my scars attract a positive person. How do you expect someone to accept you, when you can't accept who you are.... I have accepted who I am... And all I see when I look at the mirror is what a survivor I am. . . What I see is how gorgeous I am despite my scars... How lucky anyone who will have me will be despite my scars... What do you see about yourself.... Have you accepted yourself despite the ugly scars? Thanks for reading.
WORDS FROM A FATHER TO HIS SON ON MARRIAGE
COURTESY -NETDOCTOR
When I consider what type of advice is the best to give, I have to say marriage advice. Why? Because your spouse is who you spend your entire life with. They are the ones who endure every hardship, failure and struggle with you. They are by your side for success, growth and blessings. You lean on each other, rely on each other and make a life together.
A marriage is a partnership and if you nurture it, it can be the most powerful thing in your life. It can give you comfort and hope and stability when the rest of the world can not.
WORDS FROM A FATHER TO A SON ABOUT MARRIAGE.
1.My son, if you keep spending on a woman and she never asked you if you’re saving or investing, and she keeps enjoying the attention, don’t marry her.
2.My son, a woman could be a good wife to you, some could be a good mother to your children but if you’ve found a woman like a mother to you, your children and your family, please don’t let her go.
3.My son, don’t confine the position of your wife to the kitchen, where did you get that from? Even in our days, we had farm-lands where they worked every morning… that was our office.
4.My son, if I tell you that you’re the head of the house, don’t look at your pocket; look if you will see a smile on your wife’s face.
5.My son, if you want to have a long life, let your wife be in-charge of your salary, it will be difficult for her to spend it when she’s aware of the home needs and bills to pay but if it’s in your care, she will keep you asking even when all has been spent.
6.My son, don’t ever beat your woman, the pain in her body is nothing to be compared to the wound on her heart and that means you may be in trouble living with a wounded woman.
7.My son, now that you’re married, if you live a
bachelor kind of life with your wife, you will soon be single again.
8.My son, in our days, we had many wives and many children because of our large farm-lands and many harvests, there are hardly any land for farming anymore, so embrace your woman closely.
9.My son, under the big tree that I did meet your mother could be your eateries and restaurants of nowadays, but remember, the closet thing we did there was to embrace each other.
10.My son, don’t be carried away when you start making more money, instead of spending on those tiny legs that never knew how hard you worked to get it, spend it on that woman that stood by you all along.
11.My son, when I threw little stones or whistled at the window of your mother father’s house, to call her out, it was not for sex, it was because I missed her so much.
12.My son, remember, when you say your wife has changed, there could be something you’ve stopped doing too.
13.My son, your mother, she rode the bicycle with me before I bought that tortoise car outside there, any woman that won’t endure with you in your little beginning should not enjoy your riches.
14.My son, don’t compare your wife to any woman, there are ways she’s enduring you too and has she ever compared you to any man?
15.My son, there is this thing you people call
feminism, well, if a woman claim to have equal right with you in the house, divide all the bills into two equal parts, take one part and ask her to start paying the other part.
16.My son, I met your mother a virgin and I took more yams to her father, if you don’t meet your wife a virgin, don’t blame her, what I didn’t tell you is that our women had prestige.
17.My son, I didn’t send your sisters to school because I was foolish like many to think a female child won’t extend my family name, please don’t make that mistake, the kind of female achievers I see nowadays has made the male-gender an ordinary tag.
18.My son, your mother have once locked up the cloth I was wearing and almost tore it because she was angry, I did not raise my hand to beat her because of a day like this, so that I can be proud to tell you that I never for once beat your mother.
19.My son, in our days, our women had more of natural beauty, though I wouldn’t lie to you, some had minor painting of their appellation mostly on their arms, the ones you people now call tattoo, but don’t forget that they didn’t
expose any part of their body like your women of nowadays.
20.My son, your mother and I are not interested in what happens in your marriage, try to handle issues without always coming to us.
21.My son, remember I bought your mother’s first sewing machine for her, help your wife achieve her dreams just as you’re
22.My son, don’t stop taking care of me and your mother, it’s a secret of growing old and having children to take care of you too.
23.My son, pray with your family, there is a tomorrow you don’t know, talk to God that knows everything, everyday.
What are your thoughts?
When I consider what type of advice is the best to give, I have to say marriage advice. Why? Because your spouse is who you spend your entire life with. They are the ones who endure every hardship, failure and struggle with you. They are by your side for success, growth and blessings. You lean on each other, rely on each other and make a life together.
A marriage is a partnership and if you nurture it, it can be the most powerful thing in your life. It can give you comfort and hope and stability when the rest of the world can not.
WORDS FROM A FATHER TO A SON ABOUT MARRIAGE.
1.My son, if you keep spending on a woman and she never asked you if you’re saving or investing, and she keeps enjoying the attention, don’t marry her.
2.My son, a woman could be a good wife to you, some could be a good mother to your children but if you’ve found a woman like a mother to you, your children and your family, please don’t let her go.
3.My son, don’t confine the position of your wife to the kitchen, where did you get that from? Even in our days, we had farm-lands where they worked every morning… that was our office.
4.My son, if I tell you that you’re the head of the house, don’t look at your pocket; look if you will see a smile on your wife’s face.
5.My son, if you want to have a long life, let your wife be in-charge of your salary, it will be difficult for her to spend it when she’s aware of the home needs and bills to pay but if it’s in your care, she will keep you asking even when all has been spent.
6.My son, don’t ever beat your woman, the pain in her body is nothing to be compared to the wound on her heart and that means you may be in trouble living with a wounded woman.
7.My son, now that you’re married, if you live a
bachelor kind of life with your wife, you will soon be single again.
8.My son, in our days, we had many wives and many children because of our large farm-lands and many harvests, there are hardly any land for farming anymore, so embrace your woman closely.
9.My son, under the big tree that I did meet your mother could be your eateries and restaurants of nowadays, but remember, the closet thing we did there was to embrace each other.
10.My son, don’t be carried away when you start making more money, instead of spending on those tiny legs that never knew how hard you worked to get it, spend it on that woman that stood by you all along.
11.My son, when I threw little stones or whistled at the window of your mother father’s house, to call her out, it was not for sex, it was because I missed her so much.
12.My son, remember, when you say your wife has changed, there could be something you’ve stopped doing too.
13.My son, your mother, she rode the bicycle with me before I bought that tortoise car outside there, any woman that won’t endure with you in your little beginning should not enjoy your riches.
14.My son, don’t compare your wife to any woman, there are ways she’s enduring you too and has she ever compared you to any man?
15.My son, there is this thing you people call
feminism, well, if a woman claim to have equal right with you in the house, divide all the bills into two equal parts, take one part and ask her to start paying the other part.
16.My son, I met your mother a virgin and I took more yams to her father, if you don’t meet your wife a virgin, don’t blame her, what I didn’t tell you is that our women had prestige.
17.My son, I didn’t send your sisters to school because I was foolish like many to think a female child won’t extend my family name, please don’t make that mistake, the kind of female achievers I see nowadays has made the male-gender an ordinary tag.
18.My son, your mother have once locked up the cloth I was wearing and almost tore it because she was angry, I did not raise my hand to beat her because of a day like this, so that I can be proud to tell you that I never for once beat your mother.
19.My son, in our days, our women had more of natural beauty, though I wouldn’t lie to you, some had minor painting of their appellation mostly on their arms, the ones you people now call tattoo, but don’t forget that they didn’t
expose any part of their body like your women of nowadays.
20.My son, your mother and I are not interested in what happens in your marriage, try to handle issues without always coming to us.
21.My son, remember I bought your mother’s first sewing machine for her, help your wife achieve her dreams just as you’re
22.My son, don’t stop taking care of me and your mother, it’s a secret of growing old and having children to take care of you too.
23.My son, pray with your family, there is a tomorrow you don’t know, talk to God that knows everything, everyday.
What are your thoughts?
Wednesday 11 January 2017
MOTIVATIONAL STORY
Very motivational.
Long time ago there lived a great king and two beggars who always stood at the gate of his palace everyday.
As the king rode by everyday, the 1st beggar would say 'blessed is he whom the king helps' while the 2nd beggar would say 'blessed is he whom God helps'.
The king always felt pleased to hear the praise of the 1st beggar.
One evening the king decided to reward the 1st beggar for all the praise; he ordered his baker to bake a cake and wrapped gold inside the cake.
The next day as he rode by, he gave the cake to the 1st beggar as he hailed him as usual.
The 1st beggar who was in dire need of cash sold the cake to the 2nd beggar at a cheap price.
When the 2nd beggar cut open the cake he saw the gold, sold them and became a wealthy man.
He did not return back to the kings gate the next day.
As the king rode out of his palace the next day, he saw the 1st beggar still begging for money and stopped to ask him if he ate the cake he gave him.
The 1st beggar replied and said no sir, I sold it to my friend who was here with me yesterday; I have not seen him today.
The king shook his head highly disappointed and confessed silently to himself that
" Indeed Blessed is he Who God helps"
Our God is the all knowing God, HE has not forgotten you. God always does His work just in time.
Be blessed and Trust God even when you don't understand His WILL. By the grace of God, you will enjoy the favour of God this year and your blessings shall be in abundance, so shall it be. Amen
Long time ago there lived a great king and two beggars who always stood at the gate of his palace everyday.
As the king rode by everyday, the 1st beggar would say 'blessed is he whom the king helps' while the 2nd beggar would say 'blessed is he whom God helps'.
The king always felt pleased to hear the praise of the 1st beggar.
One evening the king decided to reward the 1st beggar for all the praise; he ordered his baker to bake a cake and wrapped gold inside the cake.
The next day as he rode by, he gave the cake to the 1st beggar as he hailed him as usual.
The 1st beggar who was in dire need of cash sold the cake to the 2nd beggar at a cheap price.
When the 2nd beggar cut open the cake he saw the gold, sold them and became a wealthy man.
He did not return back to the kings gate the next day.
As the king rode out of his palace the next day, he saw the 1st beggar still begging for money and stopped to ask him if he ate the cake he gave him.
The 1st beggar replied and said no sir, I sold it to my friend who was here with me yesterday; I have not seen him today.
The king shook his head highly disappointed and confessed silently to himself that
" Indeed Blessed is he Who God helps"
Our God is the all knowing God, HE has not forgotten you. God always does His work just in time.
Be blessed and Trust God even when you don't understand His WILL. By the grace of God, you will enjoy the favour of God this year and your blessings shall be in abundance, so shall it be. Amen
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