DON'T ALWAYS TRUST WHAT YOU SEE

there is more to what catches the eyes. I guess you have heard that before. Don't be so hard on yourself when you discovered you have been misled,  deceived OR fooled.  Can't blame you,  your are human after all and tends to draw conclusions and effect decisions from what you see.  What you see is not always the complete true.  The display of Love,  of anger,  of emotions,  of loyalty,  of support can just be an act for your eyes only. I am not saying your eyes deceive you everyday,  I am only saying you should leave a room of doubt in your heart,  no matter how the eyes try to convince you. I have seen people give me that smile like they could take a bullet for me,  later I see same people pull the trigger and release the bullet in me. Lip service is dangerous,  psycophancy my worst enemy. I let my heart will me to trust or doubt not base on what my eyes sees it the lip says but base on the peace I feel inwardly when I decide to do what I have to do.... There is more to every story that is played before your eyes.... As humans you cannot know what is left out or what is deliberately included just for your eyes.... After all we are not omniscience, omnipresent, only God Almighty has the title. The eyes only communicate what it sees but does not tell your heart what to believe. Today I am saying. DON'T ALWAYS TRUST WHAT YOU SEE!!!!

PSYCHOLOGY OF POSITIVE THINKING

*PSYCHOLOGY OF POSITIVE THINKING:  TIPS FOR FULFILLED LIFE*

*1. Don't complicate life. We won't be here forever. Once this day is over, it's gone forever. Your time is too valuable to waste on nonsense.*

*2. No matter what knocks you down in life, get up and keep going. NEVER GIVE UP. Great blessings come as a result of great perseverance.*

*3. Talking about our problems is our greatest addiction. Break the habit. Talk about your joys.*

*4. Good things come to those who believe, better things come to those who are patient, and the best things come to those who don't give up.*

*5. Do not pray for an easy life; pray for the strength to endure a difficult one.*

*6. Disappointments were not meant to destroy you. They were meant to strengthen you and give you fortitude to accomplish your God-given destiny.*

*7. We tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of getting something we don't have, but by appreciating what we do have.*

*8. Your child will follow your example, not your advice.*

*9. One day, you'll be just a memory for some people. Do your best to be a good one.*

*10. Associate yourself with people of good quality. For it is better to be alone than in bad company.*

*11.  Don't fear change. You may lose something good, but you may also gain something great.*

*12.  When you love what you have, you have everything you need.*

*13. The greatest act of faith some days is to simply get up and face another day.*

*14. Never let the things you want make you forget the things you have - GRATITUDE.*

*15. Commitment means staying loyal to what you said you were going to do, long after the mood you said it has left you.*

*16. When you choose to forgive those who have hurt you, you take away their power.*

*17. Patience is not the ability to wait, but how you act while you are waiting.*

*18. Isn't it ironic:*
*- We ignore those who adore us, but adore the ones that ignore us*
*- We love those who hurt us, but hurt the ones that love us.*

*19. Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together. Every story has an end, but in life every end is just a new beginning.*

*20. You were born to win. Although to be a winner, you must plan to win, prepare to win, and expect to win.*

*21. Every day is a NEW beginning, take a deep breath and START AGAIN.*

*22. Know that you are loved. You are fearfully and wonderfully made. You are beautiful. You have purpose. You are a masterpiece.*

*23. Don't compare your progress with that of others. We all need our own time to travel our own distance.*

*24. Surround yourself only with people who are going to lift you higher.*

*25. Bad things happen everyday to everyone. The difference is in how people deal with it.*

*26. When you make a commitment, you build hope. When you keep it, you build trust.*

*27. Two things define you: Your PATIENCE when you have NOTHING, and your ATTITUDE when you have EVERYTHING.*

*28. Being honest may not get you a lot of FRIENDS but it will always get you the RIGHT ONES.*

*29. Working on yourself is the hardest part of life. Keep growing up, no matter where you are.*

*30. Be selective in your battles. Sometimes peace is better than being right.*

*31. Keep people in your life who truly love you, motivate you and make you happy. If you know people who do none of these things, let them go.*

*32. Be happy not because everything is good, but because you can see the good side of everything.*

 *33. OPTIMISM*
*NO ➔ Shortcuts*
*NO ➔ Quick fixes*
*NO ➔ Blaming others*
*NO ➔ I'll do tomorrows*
*NO ➔ EXCUSES!!*

*34. Surround yourself with positive people who will support you when it rains, not just when it shines.*

*35. Being defeated is often a temporary condition; giving up is what makes it permanent.*

Enjoy God's grace on this journey we call LIFE.

FAKE FRIENDS IN SCAR TIMES

watch this video and get inspired. At scar times, you will know who you real friends are.

PLAYING THE NICE GUY

We are all living and we have chosen to play certain roles. Some of us play the bad guys, some the nice guys and others the pitable guys. We mostly tend to be excessive in the roles...Not a little of the bad guy where necessary or a little of the nice guy where its called for. We blindly and vigorously stick to the roles we have chosen like our destiny depends on the roles we play.

Are you getting what i am trying to say? i am saying, you playing the nice guy don't over do it and look stupid at the end of the day. And if you are playing the bad guy, donte humane sometime. You playing the pitable role, quit it because everyone has his own problems...And they don't go around wearing placards stating their problems. Rather some are packaging, pretending to be happy, pretending to be loved and dealing softly.
We are all playing a role...Roles we have chosen by and for ourselves. Remember what they say, moderation in all things. A word is enough for the wise. Bye for now and thanks for reading.

A NOLLYWOOD VETERAN ACTOR BIDS HIS MOTHER FAREWELL

ERNEST Obi, a nollywood veteran Actor/ Director and producer bids his lovely mother farewell as she sojourns to the afterlife. Here is a brief biography telling the story of a fulfilled and life of great impact.
Please Read This!!!
BIOGRAPHY AND FUNERAL ORATION OF LATE PRINCESS MRS BABY UZOAMAKA EUGENIA EGWUH (NEE ORIZU )

Late Princess Mrs Baby Uzoamaka Eugenia Egwuh was born on the 25th of December 1927 to the family of late King Josiah Nnaji Orizu in Otolo Nnewi of Anambra State.
She had a modest upbringing having spent all her childhood under the parent's Christian tutelage. This fact was responsible for the wonderful sense of value that distinguished 'BABY' throughout her life.

EDUCATIONAL BACKGROUND.
Late Princess Mrs Baby Uzoamaka Eugenia Egwuh(Nee Orizu ) was academically and mentally equipped. Hence her academic curriculum started with her elementary school in:
(1). First Salvation Army School Otolo Nnewi
(2). St. Patrick's Africa Episcopal School Otolo Nnewi
(3). Central School Nkwo - Nnewi
(4). College Girls School Onitsha
(5). Teacher's Training College Onitsha,
(6). And finally School of Science in Onitsha, where she was later employed as a classroom teacher to teach 'DOMESTIC SCIENCE'.

Later, sweet mom was traditionally married to Chief Leonard Dara Onyia Egwuh of 'Obi Umuogbenyeanu' village Ebe-Ukpor Nnewi in December 1951, thereafter wedded at Bishop Toughbwell Anglican Memorial Communion Church Lagos Island in 1952. After her marriage, she abandoned teaching according to her beloved husband's wish for distributorship in soft drinks from Nigerian breweries, John Holt clothing, Leventis stores, A. J Seward cosmetics, lever brothers detergent amongst others.
And later on joined her beloved husband in the transport business as the managing directress of Chief A&C Egwuh transport Nigeria Ltd. Their blissful marriage was blessed with 8 children and survived by 7 today.
As a matter of fact, the religious life of late Princess Mrs Baby Uzoamaka Eugenia Egwuh cannot be over-emphasized since she opted for the Anglican faith; Surely the fear of God is the beginning of wisdom, she remained a devout Christian and has maintained fellowship till death. At St. John's Anglican Church Ukpor and St. Saviour's Anglican Church Lagos, where she worshipped, she did not fail to attend services.

SOCIAL LIFE.
Late Princess Mrs Baby Uzoamaka Eugenia Egwuh (Ezinne ) was a woman of the people, peace and integrity. She took honour and joy everywhere she went. She enjoyed making peace amongst people. She trained and helped so many lives, by giving alms to the less privileged ones. She loved playing with children and children loved her too, in fact she was a great philanthropist in all ramifications. With this, she was called (Nwachinemelu, Ochiri - ozua, Omere - Umuogbenye, etc).

Even though the standard of man is not of God, mama demonstrated her life to God both in truth and spirit. Her contributions in the house of God (Church ) were evident; she was a member of the Anglican Women Organization, an active member of the Guild and mother, etc. Because of her honesty and devotion, mama was duly crowned "EZINNEDIORANMA " in St. John's Anglican church Ukpor. The history of mama Princess Baby Uzoamaka Eugenia Egwuh cannot be exhaustively written without mentioning her humanitarian activities, which are worthy of emulation.
Sweet mom(NWACHINEMELU ) we respect your incurable sweetness and accuracy in situation analysis, your startling accomplishments to human relation must always be remembered. Mama was a rallying point for the members of the family and a "a tree that housed many birds ". She was a shepherd of unity and epitome of peace characterized by kindness.

RELATIONSHIPS WITH PARENTS, BROTHERS, SISTERS AND OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS.

Her parents loved and adored her so much hence the name 'BABY' signified that she was an egg that would not like to be broken by anybody. It also symbolized the great true love they had for her in sincerity and earnest.
Sweet mom learned the virtues of hard work, honesty, self discipline and the fear of God from her parents who were zealous Anglican Christians.
More so, her relationship with brothers, sisters, aunties, uncles and other family members was very cordial. Late Princess Baby was highly recognized and loved in the family fold because of her usual gentleness, humility, meekness, kindness, caring, generosity, peacefulness, knowledge, intelligence, wisdom, and jovial in nature with members of her father's household and others.
Sweet angelic mom(NWACHINEMELU ) we your children, grand children, great grandchildren, relations, and well-wishers will miss your ever smiling face, prayers, words of encouragement and advice a lot. We are sufficiently convinced that you have lived an upright life in the eyes of God and that is why we should take heart.
May your humble soul rest in the bosom of the Lord, Amen!!!
Adieu Baby, Adieu Uzoamaka, Adieu Eugenia, Adieu Ezinne di nma, Adieu Nwachinemelu, Adieu onye udo na nwanyi obioma, Adieu Obi-diya!!!

EVERYDAY TO DAY VIDEO STORY TELLING

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UNMASKED

Hi readers, I remember posting an article with the title many faces of the mask. O said the face behind the mask is scary and dangerous, not until it is unmasked, will you know what lies hidden. Yea, have you ever felt like you know someone, like you could vouche for them, but in the long run. They turn out to be some body, totally unrecognizable. Yea, I have found myself countless times in that position. I almost vowed with my life that they are who they showed to me...to think I would have died for trusting the mask they cover. You do not know people, who they are and what they are capable of doing. Humans, are those who say something different with their lips and their hearts speaks something so entirely different. A nice smile, tears in the eyes, compassionate hug and a heart felt kiss might just be a mask worn for you.

Not until it is unmasked would you see the real emotion. This is the reason why a mouth that says "I love you", in few minutes time of ugliness says " I hate you". Then you see a smiling face extending a hug towards you and just

when you are not looking, the smiling face becomes monstrous and a knife is plunged through your heart. Do not trust the smiling face, do not trust the compassionate hugs....many people are wearing a mask. They wear a mask to put food on their table, they wear a mask to keep money coming into their bank accounts, they must have the mask on, to keep you by their side. With mask on, you are deceived, manipulated and trapped. Not until they are fully unmasked, would you know the person you think is the solution is actually the problem. Thanks for reading and trust no one because we are all wearing a mask....some say, we need a mask on to stay alive...to survive.....

BEING BURNED

Being burned is not a nice feeling. Its painful and a very ugly experience. I know some of you were not burned by the actual fire that burned me. Some of you were burned emotionally, others professionally. Being burned makes angry, vengeful and you see yourself blaming the world for your woes and misfortune. You conceive and set out on a mission to make the world test and pay for your pains. Being burned leaves scars...scars that take a long time to fade or may never fade. You are constantly reminded by that scar what it means to be burned.  You feel life is not worth living when you are burned. Life suddenly makes no sense, there is no white, all you see is black and blood. You feel there is no more laughter, all you see is frowns and the gazes of agony. Unknowingly, when you are burned, a new chapter is open to you, a new strength is discovered, a new drive is forced out of you.

 Being burned only means the end of one chapter of your life, and a beginning of a new one. Something good can still come out from being burned because it is the mark of a new phase of your life.
I have been burned, but I keep overcoming and rising above it....please to all who are burned rise above it and defeat your pains. Thanks for reading

HUSBAND SCARCITY

HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! Giving credit to MARYAM Habu Shinga. This article is worth a read

HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!
This may not be the best time for me to write on this because of misinterpretations, but I can no longer resist the push. "Husband Scarcity" has become one of the challenges faced by many young girls today. If you go to prayer houses, majority of the intentions are prayer for a life partner. And this calls for concern. Casting our minds back to the time of our mothers and grandmothers, was there really much of a "Husband Scarcity" problem? Or, maybe there were more men than women then, or there was an adequate corresponding numbers of both genders. I don't think so. Maybe then, the women had values and were prepared to build a home and not park into a built home. Then, once a young man comes of age and can at least feed himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a wife and the woman really appreciates him and helps him to build a future. What am I really trying to say? We created what we now see as "Husband Scarcity" for ourselves. Today, the reverse is the case. Ask an average girl to define her dream husband; you get things like "he has to be tall, handsome, fair, and rich, own a house at least, and be presentable" and then she adds "God fearing" in order not to sound so worldly. Then, check the number of girls around you and the number of men that meet that standard, and you will see the problem. You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer in my father's house and then go and start suffering with a man." What a wonderful dream! What if from the beginning, you have everything you want and there is no suffering, and later in the marriage, the table turns around, then comes suffering? Will you run away? No one prays for suffering, but it is good to start small and end big, than start big and end small. The problem is that the description majority of girls give of their ideal man is virtually the same. When 50 girls want the same kind of man and the man that fits what they want is just 1 man, and the man can only pick one. Then, what becomes of 49 others? They simply start lamenting of

"Husband Scarcity". Another irony of our time is that it is hard, due to the face of our economy to find a man who is of marriage age who possesses all those things these ladies want, legally (except those involved in Internet fraud); even the number of those in Internet fraud is not enough to match all those searching for already made husbands. If you look around, majority of the ladies of substance, of good value and virtue, who are ready to build a home with a man who has prospects, are married and not complaining of husband scarcity. The easiest way to find a husband now, is to change your view of who a husband is. A husband is that man God made and then saw that it may be hard for him to really actualize his purpose for making him, without a help mate and then made the woman and gave to him, and he felt complete and fulfilled MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. It is a mission of building the family of God here on earth. For those who see marriage as a way out of poverty, it is a way into bondage. Women are HOME BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY. Where he is today, may only be a route to where God has destined him to be tomorrow. Another truth is that YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS DESTINATION. Join in alleviating "husband scarcity". PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES. I am not saying that you should pick anyone that comes your way and talks of marriage, not all men are husband materials. What I am saying is that you should stop setting your standard on material acquisitions or physical appearances. Look beyond the physical. WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF. And that which he is made of is, most times, not seen with the physical eyes, only its effects can be seen. Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever is seen is temporal and that which is not seen is permanent.

This post is worth sharing, let it go as far as it can.

SLAP YOURSELF TO REALITY

SLAP YOUR SELF!
*Be* *Contented*
So, Tonto Dikeh invested all that money, time and energy to make us believe she had the best husband and life?
The luxury cars, jewelries, vacation, birthday parties and clothes.
Only to tell us they were all lies? That he never bought her anything, that she was just putting up a show to upgrade him?

I can't stop imagining how many people felt less of themselves watching the euphoria. How many marriages and relationships were wrecked because, some of us got mad that our partners were not doing enough. If you were one of them, take a minute and SLAP YOUR SELF!

Some girl you know, just had a flamboyant wedding and while she is feeling miserable that it was all her money, with little or no support from her husband, you're also feeling miserable because your wedding was nothing compared to hers, despite your husband's total support? SLAP YOUR SELF!

Someone is living in a bigger house than yours and while they can't sleep at night because EFCC or the bank might just show up, park them out and grab their collateral, you too can't sleep at night because you feel they are better off than you? SLAP YOUR SELF!

Your friends have their kids in the most expensive schools and while they are dying of hypertensive heart disease over school fees, you're having same health challenge because you can't take your mind off the fact that, you can't afford that school for your kids? SLAP YOUR SELF!

Your friends sleep around, loan and steal money from their offices, to fund the annual vacation and while they are restless the entire vacation, because a huge debt or query awaits them, you're also restless when you see their vacation pics on social media? SLAP YOUR SELF!

All your friends are married or in a relationship and while they have lost their self value because they settled for less than they deserved, you've lost same too because, you feel they're more deserving? SLAP YOUR SELF!

The slay queen or king on your timeline won't stop posting pictures of their designers clothes, hair, shoes, bags and jewelries and while they have slept with half the men and women in town, running and hiding from debtors, you're running and hiding too because, you feel you're not presentable? SLAP YOUR SELF!

Things do not always appear the way they are. Never loose a wink of sleep on what you see on social media.
You'll never know the length people go to paint a happy and successful picture.
Quit allowing yourself suffer their predicament by buying into the lies. And even if they were true, focus on your life. Have a dream and work towards it. Everything you need will come to you in time.
Everyone's timing is not the same. Slow and steady wins the race. If you rush in, you'll be rushed out!

N/B; Most of the very rich, happy and successful people like, Bill Gates, Mark Zuck, Oprah Winfrey, Dangote don't flaunt it on social media because they know who they are, and don't seek your validation.

So tell me, how many times did you SLAP YOUR SELF?
#becontented