KIDNAPPING- #BEWISE

Kidnapping cases in Nigeria has now reached an alarming  rate and the security agencies seems to be helpless. The recent case involved the former Director, DSS, Mike Ejiofor who was kidnapped along Okene –Obajana junction in Kogi State together with his driver,  ransom was paid after spending four days in their camp without food. According to him ,these kidnappers are Fulani gunmen with sophisticated weapons. They target mainly jeeps ,because according to  him ,they believe that once you are driving a jeep, you must be a wealthy person.
He also stated  that the kidnappers charge you base on the information they have on you through your ipad or cell phone.
In the light of this trend, staff are advised to:
•Keep a low profile and avoid ostentatious lifestyle
•Always delete your financial transactions in your ipad or handsets
•While travelling, take only less valuables  items with you.
•Avoid late travelling, plan your trip on time.
•Avoid sitting at the back of a vehicle because ,it gives impression that you are the owner of the vehicle.
•Do not accept nor offer lift to strangers.
•While travelling ,avoid expensive clothing and jewelries, dress moderately.
•information about financial transactions and travels should be handled with the highest level of confidentiality.
•Fly if you can to avoid road travelling .
•While walking or driving through hot-spots, be extra-vigilant.

HOW TO COPE AFTER BEING KIDNAPPED
•Remain calm
•Don’t try to escape
•Remember to cooperate and empathize with your captors.
•Your abductors may ask for contact person, do not mention your company’s name  unless detected, mention your Mother or close friend’s name for negotiation to your release.
•Follow their instructions to avoid being bullied or killed.
•Let your negotiator be friendly with your abductors to avoid being beaten or killed.
•Do not attempt to look at your abductors face.
The most high God shall always be our security, day & night, amen!
This information should be shared liberally.

A SEX DRIVEN GENERATION

Dear readers, I didn't want to write about this, but it is greatly affecting me that i have to speak up. I joined a social site where I get to meet lots of guys. When I say lots of you them, I mean different shades and different size. One peculiar thing I noticed about them is that they are all sex driven. They say hi to you because they have sex in mind...don't ask me how they can be sex driven when they have not seen me because, sex is the only reason they intend to see me or those of them who knows they just need you to have fun via the internet by either cam sex or sex chat. What I am asking is where did the real thing go? The days where people just talk and feel like it was the best moment of their life. Now you hear a guy say I love you only when he is in the mood for sex. In those days they tell me go to the church to look for a guy that will be OK to wait for sex after marriage, but the church boy is worst. He uses the bible to disguise like a decent guy but tells you he will not risk the problem of incompatibility in marriage... He must test before marriage. Where did the fear of God for the scripture marriage is bed undefiled? The ingredients of trust, love, hadwork that make up a good relationship is kicked to the curb and sex takes the centre stage. Even a woman's submissiveness is judged from the viewpoint of sex. Today he is all sweet and romantic with you, when he hears he is not going to be getting it from you, he becomes from sweet to snubbish and bitter. In a sex driven generation like ours, people cannot tell the difference between being in love or being in lust. In a time like this, I am congratulating those who found something real, something that is solid and is not standing on the base of sex alone. Sex is good in a relationship but it is only 10percent good. Trust, hardwork, love make up the other 90 percent in a relationship. What our sex driven generation does not know is that it takes more than sex for a relationship to be neaningful and solid. I wish I was back to the days of my parents when love is pure, when virginity is not seen as stupidity or a lacknof opportunity rather, a thing of pride and respect. In this sex driven generation that I have found myself, I can only hope that there is someone out there who is not only sexually driven that can still listen and accept the voice of  reason. Thanks for reading.

THE FIRE BURNS ALL

Dear readers,  today I write you because I have come to the realisation that everyone goes through pains. What touches you is different from what touches another. Just because you are the only one telling your story,  does not mean they do not have a story to tell. Sometimes they smile and silently deal with their problems. The fire burns all... In my case,  the literally burned me,  but in other cases,  the fire did not literally burn them but the pains they go through and try to heal from,  the scars sustained is synonymous with that caused by the actual fire burn. I met a friend from some years back,  and while I show her my scars,  talked about the pains I have been through and how much I have changed.  She looked at me and smiled.

While I was waiting for the usual consolation, she started telling me how she lost her first child during delivery... It was a still birth. It was painful for her,  after carrying the pregnancy for nine good months,  bonding with her baby when it was in the womb, but the baby did not go home with her... I forgot about my scars for that moment,  and began to console her. At that moment I realised that she too has been burn by a different kind of fire and is healing from the scars caused by that loss. When you see people with flawless skin,  impeccable taste, attractive smiles, you feel like they are better off,  not until you go very close to them,  will you have a proper conversation, then you will hear about their pains, how they rose from it,  then you will realise the fire burns all. I don't know the fire that has burned you,  I can't tell the degree of the burns and the appearance of the scar it left on you,  what I can tell you is stop feeling sorry for yourself and stop wishing you had another person's life. Just because their problems or scars isn't visible does not mean they are without problems. Concentrate on rising from your pains, because wishing to be the next man standing next to you might be worst than being you because the fire burns all..... Thanks for reading.