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Tuesday 21 March 2017
EVERYDAY TO DAY VIDEO STORY TELLING
Saturday 18 March 2017
UNMASKED
Hi readers, I remember posting an article with the title many faces of the mask. O said the face behind the mask is scary and dangerous, not until it is unmasked, will you know what lies hidden. Yea, have you ever felt like you know someone, like you could vouche for them, but in the long run. They turn out to be some body, totally unrecognizable. Yea, I have found myself countless times in that position. I almost vowed with my life that they are who they showed to me...to think I would have died for trusting the mask they cover. You do not know people, who they are and what they are capable of doing. Humans, are those who say something different with their lips and their hearts speaks something so entirely different. A nice smile, tears in the eyes, compassionate hug and a heart felt kiss might just be a mask worn for you.
Not until it is unmasked would you see the real emotion. This is the reason why a mouth that says "I love you", in few minutes time of ugliness says " I hate you". Then you see a smiling face extending a hug towards you and just
when you are not looking, the smiling face becomes monstrous and a knife is plunged through your heart. Do not trust the smiling face, do not trust the compassionate hugs....many people are wearing a mask. They wear a mask to put food on their table, they wear a mask to keep money coming into their bank accounts, they must have the mask on, to keep you by their side. With mask on, you are deceived, manipulated and trapped. Not until they are fully unmasked, would you know the person you think is the solution is actually the problem. Thanks for reading and trust no one because we are all wearing a mask....some say, we need a mask on to stay alive...to survive.....
Not until it is unmasked would you see the real emotion. This is the reason why a mouth that says "I love you", in few minutes time of ugliness says " I hate you". Then you see a smiling face extending a hug towards you and just
when you are not looking, the smiling face becomes monstrous and a knife is plunged through your heart. Do not trust the smiling face, do not trust the compassionate hugs....many people are wearing a mask. They wear a mask to put food on their table, they wear a mask to keep money coming into their bank accounts, they must have the mask on, to keep you by their side. With mask on, you are deceived, manipulated and trapped. Not until they are fully unmasked, would you know the person you think is the solution is actually the problem. Thanks for reading and trust no one because we are all wearing a mask....some say, we need a mask on to stay alive...to survive.....
Friday 10 March 2017
BEING BURNED
Being burned is not a nice feeling. Its painful and a very ugly experience. I know some of you were not burned by the actual fire that burned me. Some of you were burned emotionally, others professionally. Being burned makes angry, vengeful and you see yourself blaming the world for your woes and misfortune. You conceive and set out on a mission to make the world test and pay for your pains. Being burned leaves scars...scars that take a long time to fade or may never fade. You are constantly reminded by that scar what it means to be burned. You feel life is not worth living when you are burned. Life suddenly makes no sense, there is no white, all you see is black and blood. You feel there is no more laughter, all you see is frowns and the gazes of agony. Unknowingly, when you are burned, a new chapter is open to you, a new strength is discovered, a new drive is forced out of you.
Being burned only means the end of one chapter of your life, and a beginning of a new one. Something good can still come out from being burned because it is the mark of a new phase of your life.
I have been burned, but I keep overcoming and rising above it....please to all who are burned rise above it and defeat your pains. Thanks for reading
Being burned only means the end of one chapter of your life, and a beginning of a new one. Something good can still come out from being burned because it is the mark of a new phase of your life.
I have been burned, but I keep overcoming and rising above it....please to all who are burned rise above it and defeat your pains. Thanks for reading
Monday 6 March 2017
HUSBAND SCARCITY
HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! Giving credit to MARYAM Habu Shinga. This article is worth a read
HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!
This may not be the best time for me to write on this because of misinterpretations, but I can no longer resist the push. "Husband Scarcity" has become one of the challenges faced by many young girls today. If you go to prayer houses, majority of the intentions are prayer for a life partner. And this calls for concern. Casting our minds back to the time of our mothers and grandmothers, was there really much of a "Husband Scarcity" problem? Or, maybe there were more men than women then, or there was an adequate corresponding numbers of both genders. I don't think so. Maybe then, the women had values and were prepared to build a home and not park into a built home. Then, once a young man comes of age and can at least feed himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a wife and the woman really appreciates him and helps him to build a future. What am I really trying to say? We created what we now see as "Husband Scarcity" for ourselves. Today, the reverse is the case. Ask an average girl to define her dream husband; you get things like "he has to be tall, handsome, fair, and rich, own a house at least, and be presentable" and then she adds "God fearing" in order not to sound so worldly. Then, check the number of girls around you and the number of men that meet that standard, and you will see the problem. You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer in my father's house and then go and start suffering with a man." What a wonderful dream! What if from the beginning, you have everything you want and there is no suffering, and later in the marriage, the table turns around, then comes suffering? Will you run away? No one prays for suffering, but it is good to start small and end big, than start big and end small. The problem is that the description majority of girls give of their ideal man is virtually the same. When 50 girls want the same kind of man and the man that fits what they want is just 1 man, and the man can only pick one. Then, what becomes of 49 others? They simply start lamenting of
"Husband Scarcity". Another irony of our time is that it is hard, due to the face of our economy to find a man who is of marriage age who possesses all those things these ladies want, legally (except those involved in Internet fraud); even the number of those in Internet fraud is not enough to match all those searching for already made husbands. If you look around, majority of the ladies of substance, of good value and virtue, who are ready to build a home with a man who has prospects, are married and not complaining of husband scarcity. The easiest way to find a husband now, is to change your view of who a husband is. A husband is that man God made and then saw that it may be hard for him to really actualize his purpose for making him, without a help mate and then made the woman and gave to him, and he felt complete and fulfilled MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. It is a mission of building the family of God here on earth. For those who see marriage as a way out of poverty, it is a way into bondage. Women are HOME BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY. Where he is today, may only be a route to where God has destined him to be tomorrow. Another truth is that YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS DESTINATION. Join in alleviating "husband scarcity". PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES. I am not saying that you should pick anyone that comes your way and talks of marriage, not all men are husband materials. What I am saying is that you should stop setting your standard on material acquisitions or physical appearances. Look beyond the physical. WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF. And that which he is made of is, most times, not seen with the physical eyes, only its effects can be seen. Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever is seen is temporal and that which is not seen is permanent.
This post is worth sharing, let it go as far as it can.
HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!
This may not be the best time for me to write on this because of misinterpretations, but I can no longer resist the push. "Husband Scarcity" has become one of the challenges faced by many young girls today. If you go to prayer houses, majority of the intentions are prayer for a life partner. And this calls for concern. Casting our minds back to the time of our mothers and grandmothers, was there really much of a "Husband Scarcity" problem? Or, maybe there were more men than women then, or there was an adequate corresponding numbers of both genders. I don't think so. Maybe then, the women had values and were prepared to build a home and not park into a built home. Then, once a young man comes of age and can at least feed himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a wife and the woman really appreciates him and helps him to build a future. What am I really trying to say? We created what we now see as "Husband Scarcity" for ourselves. Today, the reverse is the case. Ask an average girl to define her dream husband; you get things like "he has to be tall, handsome, fair, and rich, own a house at least, and be presentable" and then she adds "God fearing" in order not to sound so worldly. Then, check the number of girls around you and the number of men that meet that standard, and you will see the problem. You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer in my father's house and then go and start suffering with a man." What a wonderful dream! What if from the beginning, you have everything you want and there is no suffering, and later in the marriage, the table turns around, then comes suffering? Will you run away? No one prays for suffering, but it is good to start small and end big, than start big and end small. The problem is that the description majority of girls give of their ideal man is virtually the same. When 50 girls want the same kind of man and the man that fits what they want is just 1 man, and the man can only pick one. Then, what becomes of 49 others? They simply start lamenting of
"Husband Scarcity". Another irony of our time is that it is hard, due to the face of our economy to find a man who is of marriage age who possesses all those things these ladies want, legally (except those involved in Internet fraud); even the number of those in Internet fraud is not enough to match all those searching for already made husbands. If you look around, majority of the ladies of substance, of good value and virtue, who are ready to build a home with a man who has prospects, are married and not complaining of husband scarcity. The easiest way to find a husband now, is to change your view of who a husband is. A husband is that man God made and then saw that it may be hard for him to really actualize his purpose for making him, without a help mate and then made the woman and gave to him, and he felt complete and fulfilled MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. It is a mission of building the family of God here on earth. For those who see marriage as a way out of poverty, it is a way into bondage. Women are HOME BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY. Where he is today, may only be a route to where God has destined him to be tomorrow. Another truth is that YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS DESTINATION. Join in alleviating "husband scarcity". PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES. I am not saying that you should pick anyone that comes your way and talks of marriage, not all men are husband materials. What I am saying is that you should stop setting your standard on material acquisitions or physical appearances. Look beyond the physical. WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF. And that which he is made of is, most times, not seen with the physical eyes, only its effects can be seen. Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever is seen is temporal and that which is not seen is permanent.
This post is worth sharing, let it go as far as it can.
Thursday 2 March 2017
SLAP YOURSELF TO REALITY
SLAP YOUR SELF!
*Be* *Contented*
So, Tonto Dikeh invested all that money, time and energy to make us believe she had the best husband and life?
The luxury cars, jewelries, vacation, birthday parties and clothes.
Only to tell us they were all lies? That he never bought her anything, that she was just putting up a show to upgrade him?
I can't stop imagining how many people felt less of themselves watching the euphoria. How many marriages and relationships were wrecked because, some of us got mad that our partners were not doing enough. If you were one of them, take a minute and SLAP YOUR SELF!
Some girl you know, just had a flamboyant wedding and while she is feeling miserable that it was all her money, with little or no support from her husband, you're also feeling miserable because your wedding was nothing compared to hers, despite your husband's total support? SLAP YOUR SELF!
Someone is living in a bigger house than yours and while they can't sleep at night because EFCC or the bank might just show up, park them out and grab their collateral, you too can't sleep at night because you feel they are better off than you? SLAP YOUR SELF!
Your friends have their kids in the most expensive schools and while they are dying of hypertensive heart disease over school fees, you're having same health challenge because you can't take your mind off the fact that, you can't afford that school for your kids? SLAP YOUR SELF!
Your friends sleep around, loan and steal money from their offices, to fund the annual vacation and while they are restless the entire vacation, because a huge debt or query awaits them, you're also restless when you see their vacation pics on social media? SLAP YOUR SELF!
All your friends are married or in a relationship and while they have lost their self value because they settled for less than they deserved, you've lost same too because, you feel they're more deserving? SLAP YOUR SELF!
The slay queen or king on your timeline won't stop posting pictures of their designers clothes, hair, shoes, bags and jewelries and while they have slept with half the men and women in town, running and hiding from debtors, you're running and hiding too because, you feel you're not presentable? SLAP YOUR SELF!
Things do not always appear the way they are. Never loose a wink of sleep on what you see on social media.
You'll never know the length people go to paint a happy and successful picture.
Quit allowing yourself suffer their predicament by buying into the lies. And even if they were true, focus on your life. Have a dream and work towards it. Everything you need will come to you in time.
Everyone's timing is not the same. Slow and steady wins the race. If you rush in, you'll be rushed out!
N/B; Most of the very rich, happy and successful people like, Bill Gates, Mark Zuck, Oprah Winfrey, Dangote don't flaunt it on social media because they know who they are, and don't seek your validation.
So tell me, how many times did you SLAP YOUR SELF?
#becontented
*Be* *Contented*
So, Tonto Dikeh invested all that money, time and energy to make us believe she had the best husband and life?
The luxury cars, jewelries, vacation, birthday parties and clothes.
Only to tell us they were all lies? That he never bought her anything, that she was just putting up a show to upgrade him?
I can't stop imagining how many people felt less of themselves watching the euphoria. How many marriages and relationships were wrecked because, some of us got mad that our partners were not doing enough. If you were one of them, take a minute and SLAP YOUR SELF!
Some girl you know, just had a flamboyant wedding and while she is feeling miserable that it was all her money, with little or no support from her husband, you're also feeling miserable because your wedding was nothing compared to hers, despite your husband's total support? SLAP YOUR SELF!
Someone is living in a bigger house than yours and while they can't sleep at night because EFCC or the bank might just show up, park them out and grab their collateral, you too can't sleep at night because you feel they are better off than you? SLAP YOUR SELF!
Your friends have their kids in the most expensive schools and while they are dying of hypertensive heart disease over school fees, you're having same health challenge because you can't take your mind off the fact that, you can't afford that school for your kids? SLAP YOUR SELF!
Your friends sleep around, loan and steal money from their offices, to fund the annual vacation and while they are restless the entire vacation, because a huge debt or query awaits them, you're also restless when you see their vacation pics on social media? SLAP YOUR SELF!
All your friends are married or in a relationship and while they have lost their self value because they settled for less than they deserved, you've lost same too because, you feel they're more deserving? SLAP YOUR SELF!
The slay queen or king on your timeline won't stop posting pictures of their designers clothes, hair, shoes, bags and jewelries and while they have slept with half the men and women in town, running and hiding from debtors, you're running and hiding too because, you feel you're not presentable? SLAP YOUR SELF!
Things do not always appear the way they are. Never loose a wink of sleep on what you see on social media.
You'll never know the length people go to paint a happy and successful picture.
Quit allowing yourself suffer their predicament by buying into the lies. And even if they were true, focus on your life. Have a dream and work towards it. Everything you need will come to you in time.
Everyone's timing is not the same. Slow and steady wins the race. If you rush in, you'll be rushed out!
N/B; Most of the very rich, happy and successful people like, Bill Gates, Mark Zuck, Oprah Winfrey, Dangote don't flaunt it on social media because they know who they are, and don't seek your validation.
So tell me, how many times did you SLAP YOUR SELF?
#becontented
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